Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda CJ Turner Trauma & Relationship Specialist | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Women 45+ | Emotional Abuse & Coercive Control Recovery You survived it. Now it’s time to heal from it.

Understanding Financial Abuse in DV Cases

Once a financial forensic investigation has identified parties involved in hiding assets, your attorney can issue subpoenas to compel those individuals to testify or provide documents. This could include:

Subpoenaing financial institutions (banks, credit card companies, investment firms) to release records of financial transactions and account balances.

Subpoenaing third parties (family members, business partners, or colleagues) suspected of assisting in hiding assets or income. These individuals can be required to provide records or testify in court regarding their role in the financial concealment.

Subpoenaing tax authorities to determine whether tax filings are accurate and whether income has been reported truthfully.

If someone is found to have knowingly participated in hiding assets or falsifying financial information, they can face legal consequences, including contempt of court charges or potential criminal charges.… Read More Understanding Financial Abuse in DV Cases

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Embracing Support in a Domestic Violence Situation: Using Every Resource and Giving Back

Router and Network Security: Scanning for unauthorized access or devices connected to your network.

Device Checks: Ensuring phones, laptops, and other devices are free of spyware, tracking apps, or malicious software.

Internet Safety: Providing guidance on creating secure passwords, using encrypted communication, and avoiding phishing attempts.… Read More Embracing Support in a Domestic Violence Situation: Using Every Resource and Giving Back

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Embrace the Opportunity with Intentionality

Life often brings unexpected opportunities, and one such situation might be an invitation to speak at a Domestic Violence (DV) event—an empowering chance to share your truth and inspire others. However, the dynamics can feel complicated if the invitation comes from a therapist who happens to know your ex. While this connection might initially cause hesitation, it can also be an opportunity to use your voice for good while maintaining confidentiality and protecting your legal standing.… Read More Embrace the Opportunity with Intentionality

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Sharing your story at a local Domestic Violence (DV) conference

Highlight resources: Share contact information for local shelters, hotlines, or advocacy organizations.

Educate about DV dynamics: Explain concepts like coercive control, financial abuse, or the psychological impact of DV.

Advocate for systemic change: Encourage the audience to support policies, programs, and initiatives that address DV.… Read More Sharing your story at a local Domestic Violence (DV) conference

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Doing the decent thing

Confusion and guilt: They see the abuse but may feel powerless to stop it, especially if the abuser is a parent or authority figure.

Mistrust of adults: Watching family members cover up the abuse can erode their trust in others and in systems meant to protect them.

Normalizing abusive behavior: Growing up in such an environment can make them more likely to replicate abusive or enabling patterns in their own relationships.

Emotional trauma: The ongoing exposure to cruelty, lies, and manipulation creates lasting psychological wounds, often leading to anxiety, depression, or complex trauma.… Read More Doing the decent thing

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The Weight of Ignored Warnings

The warning signs about someone’s abusive and harmful behavior were evident early on, possibly shared by those who knew them well, like their children from a previous relationship. Despite these warnings, they were disregarded or dismissed, and now, decades later, the same patterns are playing out. This realization can be deeply painful, bringing feelings of regret, betrayal, or anger.… Read More The Weight of Ignored Warnings

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Gathering Testimonials from Old Friends

Reconnecting with Old Friends: Reaching out to old friends who may have witnessed the dynamics of your past relationship or the situation you’re facing now can be very powerful. They can serve as third-party witnesses who can attest to the behavior you’ve been enduring. Even if they haven’t seen every detail, their observations of your emotional or physical state before and after certain events may hold weight.… Read More Gathering Testimonials from Old Friends

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Stalking through Security Cameras

If a restraining order or legal agreement required the transfer of accounts into your name, and this hasn’t happened, the individual is violating the terms of the order. If they still have access to financial accounts or assets that legally should be yours, it can be treated as financial control or theft, depending on the circumstances.

Action: Document the failure to transfer accounts and consult with a lawyer about the best steps to enforce the restraining order and claim your rights.… Read More Stalking through Security Cameras

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