Tag: #trauma

Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.

“When Love Costs Everything But Is Only Given to One: A Psychological View of Covert Financial and Emotional Abuse”

Thirty years ago, when my son came to live with us, it didn’t take long for him to notice something was very wrong. He couldn’t understand how I had gone from a marriage where respect and shared responsibility were the norm to a situation where I was doing everything—working full time, managing the house, fixing, mending,… Read More “When Love Costs Everything But Is Only Given to One: A Psychological View of Covert Financial and Emotional Abuse”

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“When Sharing Bills Was the Only Pro: Reclaiming My Life After a One-Sided Relationship”

At the start of my healing journey, my psychologist asked me to make a list—the pros and cons of staying or leaving the relationship I was in. I remember how panicked I felt. I was terrified of being alone, and even more terrified of having no money. But when I looked at what I had… Read More “When Sharing Bills Was the Only Pro: Reclaiming My Life After a One-Sided Relationship”

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“If My Mother Only Knew: The Silent Suffering Behind Closed Doors”

A Trauma-Informed Perspective on Psychological Abuse and Protective Family Roles There are moments in life when silence feels like betrayal—not just the silence of others, but the silence we’re forced to keep when our pain is dismissed, downplayed, or hidden to maintain peace or appearances. If my mother knew what he was really like, she… Read More “If My Mother Only Knew: The Silent Suffering Behind Closed Doors”

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🌪️ When Your Mind is Racing & Your Heart’s on a Rollercoaster: Welcome to the Trauma Bond Hangover! 🎢

You know those days where you wake up feeling like you’ve had five coffees before your eyes even opened? Your brain is doing the cha-cha, your heart is trying to be deep and reflective, and your emotions are flipping faster than a Netflix series? Yeah… today’s one of those days. It’s funny, isn’t it? One minute you’re… Read More 🌪️ When Your Mind is Racing & Your Heart’s on a Rollercoaster: Welcome to the Trauma Bond Hangover! 🎢

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🧠 The Hyper-Vigilance of Survivors: A Survival Skill

For many survivors, emotional vigilance began as a survival mechanism. In abusive environments, especially where the abuse is covert or inconsistent—alternating between warmth and cruelty—the nervous system adapts. The brain becomes trained to scan for subtle cues: micro-expressions, shifts in tone, changes in language, body language contradictions. This isn’t about paranoia. It’s about: This level of… Read More 🧠 The Hyper-Vigilance of Survivors: A Survival Skill

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🧠 “I Know It’s Bad, But I Still Feel Attached…”

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Understanding & Healing Cognitive Dissonance in Abusive Relationships One of the most perplexing and painful experiences for survivors of abuse is the mental tug-of-war that happens long after the bruises fade. You know the relationship is harmful.You know you’re not safe.And yet… part of you still misses them, still loves them, or doubts yourself. This inner conflict isn’t weakness—it’s cognitive dissonance.… Read More 🧠 “I Know It’s Bad, But I Still Feel Attached…”

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💔✨ “He Moved On So Fast…” – The Psychology of the Abuser’s Instant ‘Love’ and the Victim’s Ruin

One of the most soul-crushing moments for survivors of abuse comes after the escape—watching the abuser seemingly move on overnight. There they are:💎 Proclaiming undying love to someone new💸 Lavishing them with gifts and holidays📱 Dripping with romance and charm…while you’re left picking up the broken pieces of your finances, your identity, and your nervous system. It feels… Read More 💔✨ “He Moved On So Fast…” – The Psychology of the Abuser’s Instant ‘Love’ and the Victim’s Ruin

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🧠✨ The Power of Psychological Reports in Domestic Violence Cases

When someone escapes an abusive relationship, they often leave behind not just a toxic environment—but a trail of trauma that can’t be seen with the naked eye. This is where psychological reports can become powerful tools in the pursuit of justice, healing, and protection. Whether you’re currently involved in a legal case or simply want your story… Read More 🧠✨ The Power of Psychological Reports in Domestic Violence Cases

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