Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.
Money and love are supposed to flow in partnership — trust, shared goals, and security. But for many, financial arrangements in relationships become a weapon rather than a bond. One of the most insidious forms of control is financial abuse, a dynamic where one partner manipulates resources, property, and obligations to entrap or exploit the other.… Read More When Love Becomes a Ledger: The Psychology of Financial Abuse
Healing begins when someone dares to speak the truth: “This happened. It was not okay.” For me, that truth has been a long time coming. After months and months of conversations with experts, opening up to family, speaking to the Guardia Civil, the lawyers, and finally in court, I am finally getting the help I need and… Read More 🌱 From Silence to Healing: Naming Abuse for What It Truly Is
I recently learned something that stayed with me. My first husband and his ex-wife have always remained friends after their divorce. Over time, more and more has come to light about the abuse she endured during their marriage. One evening, while on a fishing trip, his son confided in me when his father had moved… Read More 🔍 When Silence Becomes a Legacy: The Hidden Cost of Normalising Abuse
That’s a very telling behavior, and it says a lot when someone—or their family—chooses to watch you from a distance rather than engage with you openly. From a psychological and neuroscientific perspective, this kind of “silent surveillance” can reveal several things: 🔍 Psychological Dynamics Behind Facebook Stalking 🧠 Neuroscience of This Behavior 🌱 What This Behavior… Read More 🔍 Psychological Dynamics Behind Facebook Stalking
It’s shocking what comes to light decades later. I was told by a reliable source that he once broke his ex-wife’s arm. Decades later, I experienced him attempt the very same thing with me. Abuse isn’t always a “moment in time”—for many abusers, it’s a repeating pattern, a dark thread that runs through their relationships… Read More Breaking the Silence on Generational Abuse
Playing head games and pretending to be ill to get attention—is indeed exhausting and often frustrating. From a psychological and neuroscientific perspective, it’s usually not about just being “childish” or “boring,” though it definitely can feel that way to the person on the receiving end. Instead, it often points to deeper emotional or developmental issues… Read More Playing head games
By: Someone Who’s Finally Had Enough There comes a time in every survivor’s life when you stop asking “Why did he do that?” and start asking “Why is his stuff still here?” So here we are: armed with a bin bag, a Spotify delete button, and the sudden realisation that neuroscience has been on our side all along.… Read More The Great Final Clearance Sale — Everything Must Go (Including the Abuser)
Imagine standing face to face with the person who once put their hands around your neck. The memory haunts your nervous system. Your body remembers, even when your brain tries to forget. You bring it up, needing acknowledgment, apology, accountability. Instead, you hear: “Yeah, but I only did it once!”“Stop bringing it up all the… Read More 🧠 “But I Only Did It Once”: The Lethal Psychology Behind Strangulation Minimization
Tomorrow I meet with yet another psychologist — this one requested by my doctor — and once again, I will be asked to go back. Back through 30 years of pain, betrayal, violence, and gaslighting. I will be expected to explain what happened, how it made me feel, how it impacted my health, my relationships,… Read More 💔 How Many More Times Must I Relive It?
It’s 2:00AM. The dog starts barking. You sit bolt upright in bed, heart pounding, barely breathing. In an instant, your body is flooded with dread. Is it the car this time? The house? Your mind races through every possibility, each one more unsettling than the last. You’ve lived through too much not to take it seriously. You… Read More When the Dog Barks at 2AM: Living with the Lingering Edge of Abuse
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 