One of the most uncomfortable truths about parenting is that children learn far more from what they observe than from what they are told. Parents may spend years teaching values, giving advice, and explaining what is important in life. Yet children are often paying closer attention to behaviour than words. They watch how we treat… Read More Children Often Learn What We Live, Not What We Say
In the United Kingdom, concerns about teachers, safeguarding staff, social workers, or professionals working with children can be reported through several official channels depending on the role and seriousness of the allegations. Reporting Teachers in England The main professional body is the Teaching Regulation Agency (TRA). They investigate serious professional misconduct including: You can report concerns… Read More Reporting Teachers in England
When behaviour becomes conditional —“be nice when it benefits you,”“be respectful when there’s authority,”“be kind when it’s easy” — what gets built isn’t character, it’s calculation. And psychology explains why. Children are highly sensitive to reinforcement patterns. If they learn that kindness earns praise, but only in visible or rewarded situations, they start to link behaviour with… Read More Be nice when it benefits you
“Respect other people.”“Be kind.”“Help others, even when there’s nothing in it for you.” Not implied. Not assumed. Actually said. Because here’s the uncomfortable truth — children don’t magically absorb values. They learn what is repeated, what is reinforced, and what is lived in front of them. Psychology is very clear on this. Children are shaped through observational learning — they… Read More When was the last time you said it out loud?
🧠 1. What schools in Spain are required to do Across Comunitat Valenciana, schools must: 👉 Key point: schools are legally required to report concerns, not investigate them alone 🚩 2. Warning signs schools and parents may notice 📱 Online / digital changes 🧠 Emotional / behavioural changes 🔒 Social red flags 🏫 3. What schools should do immediately If… Read More Safeguarding Guide (Valencia & Alicante): Parents & Schools
When psychologists or risk assessors use tools like the HCR-20 or PCL-R, they are not guessing — they are looking for specific patterns that predict escalation or persistence. 🚩 High-Risk Red Flags These are the behaviours that raise serious concern because they are linked to ongoing or escalating harm: 1. Persistence Over Time 👉 Indicates: deeply ingrained behaviour, not situational 2.… Read More High-Risk vs Manageable Behaviour: What Professionals Look For
Understanding Risk Assessment, Evidence, and Why Victims Must Be Supported I remain classified as high risk under my assessment. The passage of time without a recent incident does not mean the risk has disappeared. It does not mean the situation is safe. And it does not mean the danger is no longer present. Risk assessments are not… Read More High Risk Does Not Disappear With Time
A — ANOVA (Analysis of Variance) Statistical test used to compare means across 3+ groups.👉 Used in research to see if differences are real or random. B — Big Five Personality Traits (OCEAN) C — Cognitive Dissonance (Leon Festinger) Mental discomfort when beliefs and actions don’t align.👉 Drives behaviour change or justification. D — DSM-5 (Diagnostic… Read More A–Z of Psychological Tests & Concepts
Heuristic processing is a way the brain makes quick judgments and decisions using mental shortcuts, rather than slow, detailed analysis. In simple terms:👉 “This feels right based on past experience, so I’ll go with it.” How heuristic processing works Your brain uses rules of thumb to save time and energy. Instead of evaluating all available information, it relies on patterns,… Read More Heuristic processing
Gratitude, kindness, etiquette, and manners are often seen as “soft skills,” but they are foundational to human relationships. These behaviors are not innate — they are learned through a combination of family upbringing, cultural environment, education, and sometimes formal training. Let’s break down how we acquire them. 1. Family: The First Classroom The family is the… Read More Where Do We Learn Gratitude, Kindness, and Manners?
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 