Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

 Letting Them Fade into Irrelevance

When someone chooses to remain in a place not because they love it, but to spite you, it reveals more about their inability to move forward than it does about your decisions. If they spend their time complaining about the very things that make a place unique—like Spain’s hot summers, bustling crowds, or vibrant but pricey dining scene—yet still stay, it underscores their pettiness and fixation on control.

This behavior is frustrating, but it doesn’t have to define your experience. Let’s explore ways to reclaim your peace and joy, even in the face of their negativity.… Read More  Letting Them Fade into Irrelevance

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When Family Members Dismiss Abuse: The Unseen Consequences

Abusers are skilled manipulators who thrive on control and isolation. A common tactic is to convince the victim that no one will believe them if they speak up. When family members dismiss or minimize the abuse, they unintentionally validate the abuser’s narrative.

For the victim, this can be devastating. It reinforces their sense of helplessness and isolation, making them feel as though their voice doesn’t matter. The abuser may point to the family’s dismissal as proof that the victim is overreacting or lying, tightening their grip of psychological control. This dynamic often leaves victims trapped, unsure of where to turn and increasingly dependent on their abuser.… Read More When Family Members Dismiss Abuse: The Unseen Consequences

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Entitlement

The behavior of an emotionally manipulative and exploitative individual—a person who operates with little to no regard for others, prioritizing their own gain above all else. This type of person could be considered a con artist, but their actions go beyond financial manipulation; they are undermining trust, exploiting vulnerability, and causing deep emotional harm. Let’s unpack what might drive such behavior and how to cope with the devastation it causes.… Read More Entitlement

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When Trust Becomes a Trap: The Devastating Manipulation of a Con Artist

The House Sale: Your home, likely a cherished asset, is sold, and instead of the proceeds securing a brighter future, they vanish into their hands. The money is squandered without thought for your wellbeing or plans.

The Car Sale: Even something as fundamental as transportation isn’t spared. The car is sold, and again, the funds disappear, leaving you without an asset or the money it represented.

The Pension Fund: Your pension pot—a source of future security—is targeted. They attempt to strip away the savings you worked tirelessly to build, caring little for how it might leave you vulnerable in later years.

The Family Heirloom: Even your most sentimental possessions aren’t off-limits. The very diamond ring your mother left you—filled with history and love—is seen as nothing more than a financial opportunity. They pressure you to cash it in and contribute it to their ever-hungry “pot.”… Read More When Trust Becomes a Trap: The Devastating Manipulation of a Con Artist

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Pathological Lying

It’s deeply disorienting and painful when someone who champions trust and truth turns out to have lived a life shrouded in lies. The betrayal isn’t just about the lies themselves but the hypocrisy of their stance, the dissonance between their words and actions. It can feel as though the foundation of your relationship was a mirage, leaving you questioning not just them but your own judgment.… Read More Pathological Lying

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Deal Breakers

Physical abuse: Any form of violence is a clear red flag and is not acceptable in any relationship.

Emotional or psychological abuse: This includes manipulation, gaslighting, or verbal abuse, which can damage self-esteem and mental health.

Financial abuse: Controlling finances or restricting access to resources can be as harmful as physical or emotional abuse.… Read More Deal Breakers

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Blackmail

If the blackmail escalates or if you believe you’re being threatened with harm (emotional, financial, or physical), consider reporting the matter to the authorities. Law enforcement can investigate, and depending on the severity of the situation, they may press charges. This is especially important if there’s a risk of reputational damage, if sensitive information is involved, or if threats of violence are made.… Read More Blackmail

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