Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

“Hate is too great a burden to bear. I have decided to love.” 

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate “Hate destroys the hater far more than the hated” captures something deeply human, spiritual, and psychological all at once. When someone harbors hate, it festers internally. It consumes mental and emotional energy, builds stress, and can lead to both psychological distress and even physical illness. In neuroscience,… Read More “Hate is too great a burden to bear. I have decided to love.” 

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🔍 What Happens to You When You Lie Constantly?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate 🧠 1. Neurologically: Your Brain Adapts… and Deteriorates ⚡ Amygdala Desensitization The amygdala triggers emotional responses like guilt, fear, or moral discomfort when we lie. Over time, repeated lying dulls the amygdala’s response — the liar feels less guilt, less fear, less empathy. This creates a kind of emotional numbing that makes lying easier… Read More 🔍 What Happens to You When You Lie Constantly?

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🔒 Pathological Lying: Building the Bars of Your Own Emotional Prison 🔒

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Psychology | Trauma | The Mask of False Identity At first, lying might feel like protection.A way to avoid consequences.A way to hide shame.A way to control the narrative and preserve the image. But the truth is:Every lie builds a wall.Every deception adds a bar to the… Read More 🔒 Pathological Lying: Building the Bars of Your Own Emotional Prison 🔒

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🧠 Neurologically: The Brain Adapts to Lying — But Not Without Consequences

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When someone lies repeatedly — especially to protect their own abusive behavior or manipulate how others perceive them — several parts of the brain are involved: 1. Amygdala Desensitization The amygdala is the part of the brain that triggers emotional responses like guilt, fear, or anxiety.Studies have shown… Read More 🧠 Neurologically: The Brain Adapts to Lying — But Not Without Consequences

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Unpacking the real cost of denial, especially within families.

🧠 What Denial Does to the Brain — And the Soul 🧠“Let’s not talk about it.”“It wasn’t that bad.”“Why bring up the past?” Denial is a powerful shield.In family systems, it can become a collective coping mechanism—a silent agreement to look away, smooth it over, keep the peace. But here’s the cost: 🚫 Psychologically, denial fractures your connection to… Read More Unpacking the real cost of denial, especially within families.

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Healing after physical, emotional, and financial abuse

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Healing after physical, emotional, and financial abuse—particularly at the hands of someone manipulative or narcissistic—requires more than just “moving on.” It’s a deeply layered process that unfolds in stages, often nonlinear, often complex, but always transformative. From a psychological and trauma-informed perspective, here are the key stages of recovery and… Read More Healing after physical, emotional, and financial abuse

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🕊️ When They Rewrite the Story: The Psychology of Deflection, Denial, and False Narratives

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Some people will lie on your name.They’ll twist the truth.They’ll paint themselves as the victim and you as the villain. And the wildest part?They’ll do it with such conviction that even you might start to doubt your own memory.This isn’t just betrayal.It’s character assassination wrapped in emotional… Read More 🕊️ When They Rewrite the Story: The Psychology of Deflection, Denial, and False Narratives

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🌿 The Awakening Stage: Choosing Truth Over Illusion

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate There’s a moment in every healing journey when the veil begins to lift. It doesn’t always happen all at once. Sometimes, it’s a whisper, a lingering feeling that something’s not right. Other times, it’s a lightning bolt—a single event or realization that cracks the illusion wide open. What follows… Read More 🌿 The Awakening Stage: Choosing Truth Over Illusion

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🧠💔 The Terrifying Truth: Why It Feels So Dangerous to Admit That Someone We Love Is Hurting Us

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate It’s one of the hardest truths to face: That the person we love—or once loved—is hurting us. Not by accident. Not in passing. But deeply, consistently, and often—intentionally. And yet, for many survivors of emotionally abusive relationships or trauma bonds, this truth remains buried for years, even… Read More 🧠💔 The Terrifying Truth: Why It Feels So Dangerous to Admit That Someone We Love Is Hurting Us

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