Family saboteurs and ex-partners who still orbit your life are the hardest to handle.They know your history, your buttons, your soft spots.And they often feel entitled to access you. But you can deal with them in a way that protects your peace, your holidays, your identity, and your emotional energy. Here’s the blueprint. 1. Stop expecting them to behave differently… Read More “Emotional Distance”
You absolutely CAN make sure you are never chosen as anyone’s emotional target again — not by saboteurs, narcissists, manipulators, or bitter people who feed off others’ light. It’s not about becoming harder.It’s about becoming clearer, stronger in boundaries, and unavailable for their psychological games. Let me give you the exact blueprint that emotionally strong, untouchable people use.… Read More It’s not about becoming harder.
Saboteurs almost always pick one specific person to focus on — not because that person is weak, but because that person triggers their deepest insecurities. Here is the real psychological reason why you became the “chosen target.” This might sting at first, but it will also set you free. 1. Saboteurs choose the person who has what they don’t… Read More Why you became the “chosen target.”
Here is the deep, psychological, and neuroscience-based emotional profile of people who sabotage others — especially those who ruin birthdays, holidays, relationships, milestones, or any moment where someone else is meant to feel joy. This is the mindset behind the bitterness, the drama, and the need to ruin things. 1. They have a fragile self-esteem hidden under… Read More Christmas Time Mistletoe and Wine!!!
Trauma bonds are incredibly powerful, and they can keep even the strongest, smartest, most independent people stuck tolerating behaviour they would never accept from anyone else.Here’s exactly why trauma bonds make you put up with sabotage for far too long — in psychology, neuroscience, and emotional dynamics. 1. Trauma bonds form through a cycle of “hurt → soothe →… Read More Its beginning to look alot like Christmas !
1. Why YOU became the target People who sabotage others don’t pick targets randomly. They choose people with certain traits because those traits trigger their insecurity. You likely became the target because you are: • Emotionally generous Which makes you easy to drain. • Empathetic They see you will tolerate more than most. • Strong but… Read More Tis the season to be jolly!!!!
Some people really are like that — bitter, twisted, and determined to poison moments that should be joyful. But their behaviour isn’t mysterious. It comes from very predictable psychological patterns. Here’s what’s actually going on underneath: 1. When someone ruins every celebration, it’s usually about control Celebrations take the spotlight away from them. Birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day —… Read More It’s not accidental.
Healing trust isn’t just an emotional journey — it’s a neurological one. Trauma literally reshapes the brain, especially the systems that govern safety, connection, and intuition. When you relearn trust, you’re not “getting over something.” You’re rewiring your entire internal world. Here’s what that process looks like through the lens of neuroscience and psychology: 1.… Read More Relearning Trust: The Neuroscience Behind a Slow, Beautiful Process
Trauma changes the way we interpret the world. It alters our nervous system, sharpens our senses, and teaches us to scan for danger even when none exists. But paradoxically, trauma can also make us misread situations, trust too quickly, or cling to the first sign of kindness we see. If you’ve ever felt like you… Read More When Trauma Makes Us Misread People: Relearning Trust and Choosing Safe Company
Absolutely—family history research often starts with a simple curiosity and quickly opens a Pandora’s box of surprises. You think you’re just checking when someone got married, and suddenly you uncover: It’s like pulling on one loose thread of your family tapestry, and the whole pattern starts to unravel—and sometimes it’s beautiful, sometimes messy, and often… Read More Family History
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 