It’s infuriating and deeply unjust when abusers walk away unscathed, living their lives as if nothing happened—especially when they have enablers supporting their false narrative. Of course he’s in a “good place”—he’s never been the one suffering. He got to offload all his pain, control, and cruelty onto you while you were the one left to pick… Read More The abuser is in a good place!
That’s such a deep and heartfelt question. And the honest answer? Things may never go back to the old normal—but that doesn’t mean they won’t be good again. In fact, they can be even better, just in a different way. You’ve been through so much—abuse, loss, legal battles, and the painful realization of how some people truly are. That… Read More Will I ever be normal again?
When you’ve been in a constant state of survival, abuse can feel “normal,” and stepping out of it can be one of the most disorienting experiences. The mind dissociates as a survival mechanism, and facing the full reality of what you’ve endured can be overwhelming. Many survivors experience a deep sense of numbness and even… Read More “Normal”
Breaking Free from the Illusion: Recognizing Abuse for What It Is For many survivors of domestic abuse, one of the most distressing realizations comes not in the midst of the abuse, but after leaving it. Once the fog lifts, the full weight of what was endured becomes clear—acts of cruelty, manipulation, and control that had… Read More Breaking Free from the Illusion: Recognizing Abuse for What It Is
This study highlights just how vital sleep is for memory processing, especially in refining and optimizing the information we learn. It aligns with existing research that non-REM sleep strengthens memory traces while REM sleep serves a more complex role—perhaps integrating memories with prior knowledge or even clearing out unnecessary details. The concept of representational drift is fascinating.… Read More Trauma Survivors and Sleep
An old locked mobile phone can still hold a wealth of information that could be used as evidence in various legal or investigative scenarios. Even if the phone is locked, forensic experts and law enforcement agencies have methods to extract data, especially if the phone is linked to an ongoing case. Here’s what an old… Read More Mobile Data
This Is Not Love: A Tactic of Control, Punishment, and Abuse Love is not meant to feel like betrayal, manipulation, and financial devastation. Yet, when an abusive partner senses they are losing control, they often unleash a relentless campaign of punishment disguised as heartbreak. If you have experienced the following, know this: this is not love.… Read More This is NOT love
It sounds like you’re dealing with a whirlwind of manipulative tactics, and honestly, it can be frustrating and exhausting to see someone continuously come up with different stories or claims to get a reaction from you. These shifting narratives—from the new girlfriend to health crises—are textbook manipulation techniques. Each one is likely an attempt to… Read More Jackanory
When someone who has been married for 32 years suddenly claims to have a girlfriend (or someone else in their life), especially when they haven’t actually been involved with that person, it can be a sign of several things. Understanding their motives can give you a clearer picture of why they might take such a… Read More New Girlfriend
If an abuser suddenly claims that they still “love” you, have had therapy, and want to start a new relationship with you just before your court date, it’s likely a last-minute manipulation tactic. This is designed to create confusion and emotional pressure, potentially swaying your decisions or affecting your mindset going into the proceedings. It’s… Read More Last Minute Tactics
