The Real Reason They Lie About You Why those who’ve hurt us twist the story—and what psychology and neuroscience reveal about it By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When “Truth” Becomes Too Painful to Own When someone betrays, abandons, or emotionally harms you, they’re confronted with a choice: Face the truth.Admit they hurt… Read More The Real Reason They Lie About You
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Today, you live a life filled with peace, family, joy, and autonomy.The life you were always worthy of, even when you were made to believe otherwise. No one will ever again dictate who you can see, what you can love, or how brightly you can live.You are… Read More From Survival to Thriving
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate It’s astonishing — and frankly painful — how often survivors of domestic abuse and violence are lectured about “freedom” by people who have never lived a single day under control, fear, or coercion. Recently, someone said to me, “At least you have your freedom now.” As if freedom… Read More Don’t Talk to Survivors About “Freedom” If You Don’t Understand Domestic Abuse
There is something profoundly sacred about waking up in the morning and knowing — truly knowing — that you are free. Free to make your own choices.Free to move, to breathe, to live without needing permission.Free to see the people you love without fear, judgment, or restriction. For those who have lived under the crushing weight of… Read More Freedom After Control: Reclaiming the Life You Always Deserved
When someone grows up (or spends significant time) in an environment of deprivation — where love, safety, validation, or consistency were scarce — their nervous system gets trained to expect love to be: Unreliable Conditional Hard to earn Sometimes painful This conditioning becomes their “blueprint” for relationships later in life.Not because they are foolish or weak, but because the… Read More How Deprivation Conditioning Plays Out in Adult Relationships
At its core, deprivation conditioning refers to how a person (or even an animal) becomes conditioned — psychologically and behaviorally — because of a lack or absence of something essential. In classical behavioral terms, it’s about how deprivation (like lack of food, love, attention, approval, safety, affection, etc.) creates powerful motivations and emotional patterns. The brain adapts to the absence of basic needs… Read More What is Deprivation Conditioning?
Over the past few weeks, my heart has been overflowing with gratitude.My amazing daughter has been spoiling me in ways I had forgotten even existed — surrounding me with love, care, and thoughtful gifts, ensuring that every little thing I was once denied is now placed gently and generously back into my life.It’s a feeling… Read More Rediscovering Joy: The Power of Being Truly Spoilt and the Psychology Behind Past Denials
Sometimes in life, evidence uncovers itself without us even searching.You receive signs — subtle nudges from the universe — to follow up on things.You get that little niggling doubt in the back of your mind, that whisper that something isn’t quite right. ✨ That niggle is your gut instinct speaking to you. ✨ At Linda Turner Therapy, we believe in… Read More 🌿 Trust Your Gut – It Knows the Way 🌿
There is something profoundly powerful, almost sacred, about surrendering certain battles to a higher power. Especially when you’re dealing with the slow grind of legal systems or injustice, it’s so tempting to want to react, to defend yourself, to do something. But often, the greatest strength lies in doing nothing — not out of weakness, but from… Read More Trust the process
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate From a psychological perspective, when an abuser gives unwanted sex toys as Christmas or birthday presents—especially in a relationship marked by control or emotional abuse—it can carry disturbing, layered messages that reflect their need to dominate, humiliate, and assert power. It’s not about intimacy, generosity, or love;… Read More “Your body is mine, not yours”
