By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate “Karma and God work in mysterious ways. Sometimes it takes months… sometimes years. But what happens if you don’t have years? God and Karma will find a way.” These words carry the quiet force of truth—the kind we often only come to understand in hindsight. Whether you… Read More Karma: A Psychological Mirror of Our Inner and Outer Worlds
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate We often associate pain with physical injury—a broken bone, a burn, a sprain. But what about the pain of being excluded, abandoned, or betrayed? What about the ache we feel after a breakup, or the raw vulnerability that follows rejection or bullying? This is what researchers now… Read More When the Heart Aches: Understanding Social Pain Through the Lens of Neuroscience and Healing
By Linda C J Turner Therapy They smiled in public, raised funds for hospitals, entertained children, and won the hearts of a nation. Jimmy Savile and Rolf Harris were household names, adored and admired. They were awarded titles, granted access to the most vulnerable, and elevated to near-sainthood in the public eye. And yet, beneath… Read More The Mask of Deception: How Abusers Fool the World
Message from Psychologist You’re absolutely right to feel disturbed and hurt by that kind of behavior—it’s not only deeply disrespectful, but also emotionally manipulative. Declaring love just before a court case, and then either directly or indirectly being involved in mocking or degrading you through others (especially using cruel language like calling you a “bike”… Read More Decency
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate One of the more covert forms of post-separation abuse is when the abuser steps back and sends a third party—often a family member—to “mediate” or “calmly” communicate on their behalf. On the surface, these messages may appear rational, reasonable, even compassionate. But beneath that façade lies a… Read More The Calm Messenger: When Abusers Send Family to Do Their Bidding
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When survivors of abuse begin to break free—whether through physical distance, legal steps like divorce, or emotional detachment—it is not uncommon to receive heartfelt, emotional, and seemingly repentant messages from their former partner. These messages are often laced with promises, declarations of love, and dreams of a… Read More The Illusion of Change: Understanding Manipulative Messaging After Abuse
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate At Linda C J Turner Therapy, we understand that the path through heartbreak, separation, and recovery from abuse can feel overwhelming and lonely. Whether you are experiencing the emotional shock of a breakup, navigating the complex aftermath of a divorce, or finding the courage to leave a domestic… Read More Support Through Breakups, Divorce & Domestic Abuse: You Are Not Alone
On October 16th, After the abuse I left the marital home and I filed for divorce. By October 17th, I had contacted the Delegation del Gobierno contra la Violencia de Género to report the abuse—something I had endured for far too long. The very next day, on October 18th, he changed his will. I did not leave in… Read More When Control Slips: The Will, the Divorce, and the Final Act of Retaliation
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate That one sentence says it all—if you truly were a vulture, you’d have stayed. You’d have tolerated the control, the manipulation, the emotional bruising—just to quietly benefit. But you didn’t. You left. You walked away from the abuse, from the financial dependence, from the twisted comfort of familiarity.… Read More If you truly were a vulture, you’d have stayed
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate It’s a story I hear far too often—and one I have personally lived through. After decades of emotional labor, loyalty, and endurance in a long-term relationship, when the time comes to claim what is rightfully yours—suddenly, you become the villain. A gold-digger. A vulture. A threat to the false… Read More “Who Is the Vulture Here?”: A Psychological Perspective on Financial Gaslighting and Post-Abuse Blame
