Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda CJ Turner Trauma & Relationship Specialist | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Women 45+ | Emotional Abuse & Coercive Control Recovery You survived it. Now it’s time to heal from it.

Narcissistic Manipulation: A Dual-Faced Approach

Narcissistic Manipulation: A Dual-Faced Approach

Narcissists are skilled at projecting an image of fairness and righteousness, particularly to those on the outside. To the world—and often to family—they may portray themselves as the victim or the reasonable party. Behind the scenes, however, their actions tell a very different story.

Public Persona vs. Private Reality

The Public Persona: Narcissists often craft a narrative where they appear to be acting fairly and with integrity. They may express willingness to compromise, emphasize their good intentions, and paint themselves as misunderstood.

The Private Reality: This is often starkly different. Behind closed doors, they may employ manipulative tactics like withholding consent, making unreasonable demands, or sabotaging efforts to resolve matters amicably.… Read More Narcissistic Manipulation: A Dual-Faced Approach

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The Cycle of Destruction: Lies, Manipulation, and Hate

Navigating the aftermath of a difficult relationship is often challenging, but when your ex-partner seems dedicated to undoing everything you’ve worked so hard to build, it can feel like a relentless assault on your peace and happiness. For some, this experience transcends the typical struggles of divorce or separation, plunging into the realm of sustained,… Read More The Cycle of Destruction: Lies, Manipulation, and Hate

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Proud to be invited to become part of European Union of Women Marina Alta

We raise awareness against all kinds of injustice and violence against women and girls and all kinds of discrimination.

Each Section (member country) has its own organisation with regional and local committees, organising their own business, events and awareness raising.

Through its structure, board members and others are able to meet regularly and discuss and understand the cultural, economic and political issues as they affect women across Europe.… Read More Proud to be invited to become part of European Union of Women Marina Alta

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Every cloud has a silver lining

When a partner chooses manipulation and deceit over honesty, especially in the context of marriage or a long-term relationship, it reflects deep emotional dysfunction. Their actions are driven by a need to control, punish, or validate themselves at the expense of their spouse. This behavior often continues after separation because they struggle to let go of the toxic dynamics they created.Hatred and Venom: A person consumed by anger and resentment will often fixate on their former partner, blaming them for their own unhappiness or failures. Their lies and manipulation become tools to maintain power and justify their behavior.

A Pattern of Behavior: When someone repeats this cycle with multiple partners, it’s clear that their actions are less about the individual they are targeting and more about who they are as a person. Their inability to take responsibility or grow emotionally creates a trail of devastation that becomes undeniable over time.

Greed and Control: For some, manipulation is a way to gain financially, socially, or emotionally, even at the cost of others. Their inability to move on stems from a belief that they must “win” at all costs, even if it means destroying others in the process.… Read More Every cloud has a silver lining

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Truth Triumphs Over Lies

Undermine Relationships
Fabricating stories about lost respect or betrayal aims to isolate the victim. By sowing seeds of doubt, manipulators hope to create a divide between the victim and their support system.

Instill Fear
Manipulation thrives on fear—fear of losing friends, status, or credibility. This fear can cloud judgment and push people into decisions that align with the manipulator’s goals.

Deflect Accountability
Manipulators often fabricate accusations to shift attention away from their own misdeeds. This tactic not only discredits others but also shields them from scrutiny. At the heart of many manipulative schemes is greed—a relentless desire for power, wealth, or recognition. Greedy individuals often see others as obstacles to their goals, leading them to employ lies and deceit. However, such tactics are rarely sustainable. The truth is resilient and has a way of surfacing, often exposing the manipulator’s actions in the most public ways.… Read More Truth Triumphs Over Lies

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The Liar’s Motivation

The Liar’s Motivation
People who fabricate such stories often do so to protect their self-image or to avoid taking responsibility for their actions. This can stem from deep insecurity, narcissistic tendencies, or an inability to face the consequences of their behavior.

Enablers in the Family
Family members who pretend to support the spouse publicly but condone or participate in the deception behind closed doors often do so out of loyalty, fear, or a desire to maintain the status quo. This complicity can make the targeted spouse feel isolated and betrayed.

Patterns of Behavior
If this person has behaved similarly in past relationships, it’s a clear indication of a pattern. People like this rarely change unless they recognize their own behavior and actively seek help.… Read More The Liar’s Motivation

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Turning the corner

Looking back, it’s striking how different things appear when the fog lifts. You start noticing those subtle signs—the coldness in someone’s eyes, the way their words don’t quite match their actions, or the weight of carrying someone else’s burdens for far too long. It’s as if the emotional and mental energy you were using to sustain yourself under the influence was also muting your ability to truly see. And when you stop drinking, those truths become impossible to ignore.… Read More Turning the corner

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