The Garage Full of Fishing Rods Nearly two years. Nearly two years of waiting for someone to collect the life they left behind. The cupboards.The drawers.The forgotten paperwork.The random cables nobody understands.The clothes still hanging exactly where they were abandoned.And, of course, the garage. Ah yes… the garage. A shrine to fishing. Enough rods, reels,… Read More Reinventing Yourself
Sometimes healing does not arrive all at once in one dramatic life-changing moment. Sometimes it arrives quietly. In small realisations.In moments of peace.In noticing what still remains good even after difficult chapters. And lately, I have found myself feeling grateful. Grateful for the possibility of a new home soon — a new space, a new… Read More Gratitude in the Middle of New Beginnings
One of the biggest mistakes some abusers make is believing that once a restraining order ends, everything simply “resets” and they are free to continue old patterns of intimidation, harassment, stalking, manipulation, or unwanted contact. They could not be more wrong. What has been made very clear to me is this: protection does not suddenly… Read More Protection Does Not Expire When Abuse Does
Apparently, everyone who walks into your life has a purpose. A teacher.A lesson.A blessing.A catalyst for growth. Lovely theory. Very neat. Very spiritual. Now someone please explain the last 32 years, because I seem to have missed the PowerPoint presentation. For three decades I apparently completed an advanced course in: No certificate yet. Still waiting… Read More Everyone Comes Into Your Life for a Reason… I’m Just Still Waiting for the Memo on the Last 32 Years
Someone recently suggested I write a list of the pros and cons of my marriage. A healthy exercise, apparently.Balanced. Reflective. Therapeutic. So I sat down fully intending to be fair-minded and emotionally mature. I thought:“Come on, Linda. Thirty-two years. There must have been positives.” I made a cup of tea.Opened a notebook.Prepared myself for deep… Read More The Pros and Cons List That Went Wrong
A full-scale collapse of reality, not just “finding a few secrets.” When decades of a life get re-read through hidden letters, devices, and documents, it can feel like everything solid turns unstable. When people go through this kind of accumulation of discoveries, a few psychological things often happen at once: 1. “Retroactive rewriting” of your entire… Read More Full-scale collapse of reality
Uncovering multiple truths at once can feel emotionally disorientating. Sometimes it is not one revelation — it is layer after layer, where each discovery changes the meaning of something you thought you understood before. And yes, there are moments where people genuinely think: “I wish I had never found this out.” Because truth is not… Read More Uncovering multiple truths
People who lead “double lives” in marriage—appearing stable and ordinary on the outside while hiding a very different reality—do exist, but they’re not a single psychological type. It’s usually a mix of deception, compartmentalisation, and unmet personal needs, sometimes combined with more concerning personality patterns. How double lives are usually maintained Most people who sustain this… Read More When Marriage is just a Cover
Honesty in new relationships is less about “telling the truth” and more about creating emotional safety—a space where two people can be real with each other. Early honesty sounds like: “This is who I am.”Not a polished version. The real one. That includes things like: The right person doesn’t need you to shrink those truths. Honesty… Read More This is who I am
This is one of the most interesting findings in psychology: two people can live through the same relationship and walk away with completely different “truths” about it. Not because one is necessarily lying—but because the brain doesn’t store relationships as facts. It stores them as interpreted emotional experiences. 🧠 Why two people build opposite narratives 1. Different… Read More Different Truths
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 