There comes a point in life when we all have to stop blaming, stop making excuses, stop explaining away uncomfortable realities, and take a long, honest look in the mirror. Not a quick glance at the surface. A deep look. An honest look. A courageous look. Many parents struggle to understand why their adult children… Read More The Mirror We Often Avoid Looking Into
Sometimes it is not the big things that hurt the most. It is the small things. You visit their home and notice photographs of family members on display. Parents, siblings, children, friends, holidays, celebrations, and treasured memories are all visible. But there is no photograph of you. You look around and realise that gifts you… Read More When You Seem to Have Disappeared from Their World
One of the most painful forms of self-deception can occur when a parent desperately wants to believe what their adult child is saying, while ignoring what their adult child’s actions are showing them. Most parents want to see the best in their children. They want to believe the promises, the reassurances, and the comforting words.… Read More When Words and Actions Tell Different Stories
One of the most painful realities some parents face is the growing realisation that their adult children have no intention of helping, supporting, or caring for them as they grow older. This is not about expecting children to sacrifice their own lives or become full-time carers. Most loving parents want their children to be independent,… Read More When Adult Children Make It Clear They Won’t Be There
When money becomes the focus of nearly every conversation, it often reflects something deeper than simple curiosity about finances. There can be several psychological reasons: Security and Survival For some people, money represents safety. If they grew up with financial insecurity, they may constantly assess what things cost, what people earn, and who owns what… Read More Social Comparison
From Caterpillar to Butterfly: A Journey of Transformation If I had to describe the past eighteen months in a single image, it would be the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly. From the outside, people see the butterfly. They see confidence, smiles, independence, and a life that appears to be flourishing. What they don’t… Read More Metamorphosis
For a long time, I questioned my own judgement because I was repeatedly presented with stories, explanations and accusations that simply did not make sense. Over time, however, documents, reports, emails, recordings and independent evidence began to paint a very different picture. Two years later, many of the claims that caused so much confusion can… Read More When Actions and Evidence Don’t Match the Story
On This Day You have 33 posts from this day, May 30. 🌷 2025 🌊 Back to Me View • 🌿 You Are Not Responsible for Their Misery View • 💔 When You Love Someone Who Is Miserable All the Time View • 💔 The Slow Burn of Meanness in Long-Term Relationships View • 🧨 Definition of Cruelty in a Long-Term Relationship View • 🌊 Just… Read More Older posts from May 30th
As I reflect on the last eighteen months, one word keeps coming to mind: gratitude. Not because the journey has been easy. It hasn’t. Not because every person I encountered treated me with kindness. They didn’t. But because every experience, every challenge, every disappointment, and every act of support revealed something important. I am grateful to… Read More Gratitude for the Lessons
There are moments in life when you look around and realise that, despite everything that has happened, you have made it through. This week was one of those moments for me. It was a week filled with simple pleasures and meaningful connections. Meals out at some wonderful restaurants, long conversations with friends, neighbours and special… Read More Living the Dream at Last: Eighteen Months of Letting Go and Moving Forward
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 