When you meet someone for the first time, pay attention to what they do, not just what they say. First impressions aren’t about making an instant judgement or deciding that one small behaviour tells you everything about a person’s character. They are about observing. How do they treat you? Do they make an effort? Do they listen… Read More First Impressions Count: Observe Behaviour
Love should never require you to ignore your instincts. Whether you’re dating for the first time in years, rebuilding your life after abuse, or simply wanting to make wiser relationship choices, these questions can help you slow down, observe patterns, and make informed decisions. No single answer proves someone is abusive—or that they are safe.… Read More A Relationship Safety Checklist: Questions Everyone Should Ask Before Committing
If you discover that someone has a criminal conviction for domestic violence, take it seriously. Don’t allow anyone to minimise it or explain it away with familiar phrases such as: “She made it up.” “She’s unstable.” “She’s bitter.” “She’s only after money.” “It was just a messy divorce.” “There are two sides to every story.”… Read More Never Ignore a History of Domestic Violence
Beginning a new relationship should be exciting, but it is also important to protect yourself. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts. You have every right to ask questions, take things slowly, and make informed decisions about your safety. Many people don’t realise that in some countries there are official schemes that allow you… Read More Starting a New Relationship? Here’s How You Can Check if Your New Partner Has a History of Domestic Abuse
it’s worth explaining that VioGén is far more than a police database. It is one of the world’s most comprehensive multi-agency risk assessment and victim protection systems, designed to ensure that victims do not “fall through the cracks” as they move through the criminal justice system. How VioGén Works When an incident of gender-based violence is reported—whether… Read More How VioGén Works
One of the first signs I noticed that I was truly healing wasn’t dramatic. It wasn’t a single breakthrough or a life-changing event. It was something much quieter. I stopped feeling exhausted all the time. For years, I lived as though I was running on empty. No matter how much I slept, I woke feeling… Read More When You Stop Feeling Constantly Exhausted
There is something happening to me that I didn’t expect from healing. I can feel the world again. Not emotionally overwhelmed by it. Not frightened by it. I can actually feel it. For years, my nervous system existed in a state of heightened alertness. When you live with domestic abuse, coercive control, unpredictability, or fear, your… Read More When You Stop Surviving and Start Feeling Life Again
If there is one lesson my own experience has taught me, it is this: Choose very carefully who you confide in when you are living with abuse. When I finally spoke about what was happening behind closed doors, I hoped someone would ask a simple question: “Are you okay?” “Do you need somewhere safe to… Read More One Lesson I Learned the Hard Way
Every person has a story. Some stories are filled with adventure. Others are filled with love. Some are marked by extraordinary success. And some are stories of survival. If you have lived through trauma, abuse, loss or adversity, you may have wondered whether your experiences are worth writing down. The answer is yes. Not because… Read More Why Writing Your Story May Be the Most Healing Chapter of Your Life
Money is important. We all need it to pay our bills, put food on the table and create security for ourselves and our families. But what happens when money stops being a tool and becomes the purpose of life? When every conversation is about money…Every decision is about money…Every relationship is measured by money…Every act… Read More When Everything Revolves Around Money, Is There Any Time Left to Actually Live?
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 