One of the strongest predictors of future behaviour is past behaviour. That doesn’t mean people can’t change—they can. But genuine change usually requires accountability, insight and sustained effort, not simply the passage of time. If someone has repeatedly used relationships to gain financially, manipulated others for money, or left a trail of disputes over finances, it… Read More Before You Commit, Look at the Pattern—Not Just the Promises

Sometimes, families have a phrase for someone whose behaviour is so consistent that it becomes part of their identity. One phrase I’ve heard is “Bare Minimum.” Not because the person lacked money. Not because they were unable to be generous. But because, regardless of the occasion, they gave the absolute minimum they believed they could get… Read More “Bare Minimum” – When Doing the Least Becomes a Way of Life

It’s an interesting transformation. For years, there always seemed to be something to say about someone else. Someone to report. Someone to criticise. Someone to blame. Someone whose reputation needed to be questioned. Someone who, in their eyes, had done them wrong. Then, one day… Silence. The person who was once so visible becomes what… Read More The Invisible Man