Grooming (often called “child solicitation” or “online sexual solicitation of minors”) is when an adult contacts a minor with sexual intent and tries to build trust for sexual purposes. 🔴 It is considered grooming when someone: 1. Contacts a minor under 16 (or under 18 in some exploitation contexts) Online (social media, apps, messaging) Or in person 2. Establishes communication… Read More What counts as grooming in Spain?
This series explores human behaviour, relationships, and emotional resilience through the work of Alfred Adler—one of the first psychologists to focus not just on what is “wrong” with people, but on how they can grow, connect, and find meaning. Each piece builds on the last, moving from origins, to patterns, to healing, and now to… Read More Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series
This collection of lectures and essays by Alfred Adler brings together one of his most important ideas: That the desire for superiority must be balanced by social interest. Adler did not believe that striving to improve oneself was wrong. In fact, he saw it as a natural and necessary part of being human. We all want… Read More Superiority and Social Interest (Posthumous, 1964)
This series explores human behaviour, relationships, and emotional resilience through the work of Alfred Adler—one of the first psychologists to focus not just on what is “wrong” with people, but on how they can grow, connect, and find meaning. Each piece stands alone, but together they tell a deeper story: 1. The Neurotic Constitution —… Read More Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series
People are not born cruel.Cruelty is learned, reinforced, and practiced over time. From a neuroscience perspective: Infants are born with capacity for empathy Empathy circuits (mirror neurons, anterior insula, ACC) strengthen with attuned caregiving neglected overridden by fear rewarded for dominance, humiliation, or control Cruelty becomes conditioned behavior, not an innate trait. How Cruelty Becomes Reinforced in the Brain When… Read More Are People Born Cruel — or Is Cruelty Learned?
People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s the truth:violence and abuse often escalate during the holiday season. Stress, alcohol, financial pressure, entitlement, loss of routine, family gatherings — all of these can inflame an abuser’s behaviour. And many abusers deliberately “up their game” at Christmas to cause maximum emotional impact. After 32 Christmases of abuse, I… Read More Violence and Abuse Often Escalate at Christmas — Stay Vigilant
“Bryan Randall was the kind of man who made you feel like the world was a little brighter just because he was in it. He didn’t have to try to be good, he just was. He’d say things like, ‘I just want you to know that you matter,’ or ‘Sometimes the smallest kindness is the one that changes… Read More Words from Sandra Bullock
Example of Observed Behaviours / Patterns Behaviour Description Psychological Impact / Interpretation Threats regarding property and assets Lawyer communicated 65/35 split and potential full property claim if agreement not signed. Activates amygdala fear response, cortisol release, and loss-aversion bias, impairing rational decision-making. Demand to withdraw complaints/restraining orders Explicit request to dismiss prior legal protections. Induces moral conflict and prefrontal cortex… Read More Observed Behaviours / Patterns
Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer (specialised gender-violence court in Spain), tailored to highlight coercive control and decision-making under threat: 🧠 Understanding Coercive Legal and Emotional Control in the Context of the Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer 1. Court Context The Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer is specialised in handling cases of: domestic violence gender-based abuse coercive… Read More Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer
It’s honestly hilarious when someone lives so deep inside their own fantasy bubble that they genuinely believe you’ll never leave them…unless, of course, “you have someone else.” That’s not logic — that’s projection.They judge you entirely by their own standards. After all, this is the same brain that once berated the ex-wife for “going off with someone else,”while also announcing: “I have… Read More The Neuroscience of Delusion
