We live in a world where fairy tales and fantasy love stories have taken over our screens, bookshelves, and even our dating apps. Disney princesses with their glass slippers, Mills & Boon novels filled with swoon-worthy heroes, and romantic comedies where everyone finds “the one” in 90 minutes or less—sometimes it feels like reality got… Read More So, are we living in a world of fantasy?
Grooming (often called “child solicitation” or “online sexual solicitation of minors”) is when an adult contacts a minor with sexual intent and tries to build trust for sexual purposes. 🔴 It is considered grooming when someone: 1. Contacts a minor under 16 (or under 18 in some exploitation contexts) 2. Establishes communication with sexual intent For example: 3. Builds trust… Read More What counts as grooming in Spain?
This series explores human behaviour, relationships, and emotional resilience through the work of Alfred Adler—one of the first psychologists to focus not just on what is “wrong” with people, but on how they can grow, connect, and find meaning. Each piece builds on the last, moving from origins, to patterns, to healing, and now to… Read More Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series
This collection of lectures and essays by Alfred Adler brings together one of his most important ideas: That the desire for superiority must be balanced by social interest. Adler did not believe that striving to improve oneself was wrong. In fact, he saw it as a natural and necessary part of being human. We all want… Read More Superiority and Social Interest (Posthumous, 1964)
This series explores human behaviour, relationships, and emotional resilience through the work of Alfred Adler—one of the first psychologists to focus not just on what is “wrong” with people, but on how they can grow, connect, and find meaning. Each piece stands alone, but together they tell a deeper story: 1. The Neurotic Constitution —… Read More Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series
People are not born cruel.Cruelty is learned, reinforced, and practiced over time. From a neuroscience perspective: Cruelty becomes conditioned behavior, not an innate trait. How Cruelty Becomes Reinforced in the Brain When someone harms another person and experiences: …the brain releases dopamine. Over time: This is why cruelty can escalate if unchecked. Can Long-Term Cruelty Be Fixed? It depends — and… Read More Are People Born Cruel — or Is Cruelty Learned?
People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s the truth:violence and abuse often escalate during the holiday season. Stress, alcohol, financial pressure, entitlement, loss of routine, family gatherings — all of these can inflame an abuser’s behaviour. And many abusers deliberately “up their game” at Christmas to cause maximum emotional impact. After 32 Christmases of abuse, I… Read More Violence and Abuse Often Escalate at Christmas — Stay Vigilant
“Bryan Randall was the kind of man who made you feel like the world was a little brighter just because he was in it. He didn’t have to try to be good, he just was. He’d say things like, ‘I just want you to know that you matter,’ or ‘Sometimes the smallest kindness is the one that changes… Read More Words from Sandra Bullock
Example of Observed Behaviours / Patterns Behaviour Description Psychological Impact / Interpretation Threats regarding property and assets Lawyer communicated 65/35 split and potential full property claim if agreement not signed. Activates amygdala fear response, cortisol release, and loss-aversion bias, impairing rational decision-making. Demand to withdraw complaints/restraining orders Explicit request to dismiss prior legal protections. Induces moral conflict and prefrontal cortex… Read More Observed Behaviours / Patterns
Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer (specialised gender-violence court in Spain), tailored to highlight coercive control and decision-making under threat: 🧠 Understanding Coercive Legal and Emotional Control in the Context of the Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer 1. Court Context The Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer is specialised in handling cases of: It recognises patterns of psychological abuse and manipulative… Read More Juzgado de Violencia sobre la Mujer
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 