Self-sabotage meets impulsivity.

A classic example of self-destructive, vindictive behavior from a neuroscience and psychology perspective. Let’s unpack it carefully. 1. The Brain and Self-Destruction When someone ruins their own life, there’s often a combination of: Impulsivity and poor decision-making – linked to the prefrontal cortex, which regulates planning, judgment, and long-term thinking. If this area is underactive or impaired (by stress, trauma, or chronic… Read More Self-sabotage meets impulsivity.

When Manipulators Go Into Meltdown: Understanding the Neuroscience and Psychology

Watching someone escalate their tactics can sometimes feel almost surreal. They seem to spiral, their behavior becomes erratic, and it’s tempting to think: they must be going into a meltdown. Neuroscience and psychology explain why this happens. 1️⃣ The Brain Under Stress When manipulative individuals encounter resistance or fail to control a situation, their nervous… Read More When Manipulators Go Into Meltdown: Understanding the Neuroscience and Psychology

Anxiety vs Paranoia vs Delusions vs Psychosis

(And why doctors ask about war zones / military service) 1️⃣ Anxiety Core emotion: Fear, worry, anticipation Anxiety is a heightened fear response to perceived threat — usually based on real-life stress or danger. Key features: Excessive worrying Hypervigilance Overthinking Physical symptoms (racing heart, sweating, tension) Fear of future events Reality testing: ✅ IntactThe person knows their fear may be irrational but… Read More Anxiety vs Paranoia vs Delusions vs Psychosis

What Long-Term Abuse Does to the Brain — When There’s No Therapy

Abuse doesn’t just hurt the person on the receiving end. Over many years, without therapy or accountability, abusive behaviour also changes the abuser’s brain and emotional functioning in ways that make real change harder. This isn’t an excuse — it’s science on how the nervous system adapts to chronic patterns. 1. The Brain Learns Control as a… Read More What Long-Term Abuse Does to the Brain — When There’s No Therapy

Stalking or watching young children — what is it?

It depends on intent, behaviour, and pattern, but persistent watching of children is a major red flag and can fall under criminal behaviour, even before physical contact. When “watching” becomes a concern It is not normal for an adult to: Repeatedly watch specific children Follow children or linger where they play without a clear, legitimate reason Observe children in secretive ways Focus attention… Read More Stalking or watching young children — what is it?

🧠 SECURE vs AVOIDANT COMPANIONSHIP BRAINS

(Brain → behaviour → relationship experience) 🟢 SECURE COMPANIONSHIP BRAIN “Connection is safe and mutual.” 🧠 Brain wiring Balanced amygdala (threat system not dominant) Strong prefrontal cortex integration Oxytocin system online (bonding + trust) Dopamine not dependent on extraction ⬇️ 🧍 Behaviour in early interactions Curious about you, not just your availability Comfortable with pauses, delays,… Read More 🧠 SECURE vs AVOIDANT COMPANIONSHIP BRAINS

Practical and safe approach

Passing the information to your psychologist and discussing it is generally a very safe and effective choice, from both psychology and neuroscience perspectives, because it allows you to process the material without carrying it alone, and it protects your nervous system. Here’s the reasoning: 1. Psychologists are trained containers for trauma Unlike family or acquaintances, psychologists provide… Read More Practical and safe approach

Why Chasing Non-Responsive Partners is Unhealthy: A Neuroscience Perspective

1. The Stress Response and Uncertainty Amygdala Activation: When someone ignores you, your amygdala perceives social rejection as a threat, triggering a fight-or-flight response. HPA Axis Activation: Chronic uncertainty causes repeated cortisol release, which can lead to stress, anxiety, and even physiological symptoms like tension, insomnia, and irritability. Neurochemical Effect: Dopamine spikes intermittently when they do respond (reward), creating a variable-reward cycle similar to… Read More Why Chasing Non-Responsive Partners is Unhealthy: A Neuroscience Perspective

Psychological Profile of This Behaviour (Property Damage After Disputes)

This pattern of behaviour — demanding entitlement to an asset and then the asset being vandalised soon after — aligns with psychological traits commonly observed in coercive control, retaliatory aggression, and entitlement-based conflict. Individuals who engage in this pattern typically show high sensitivity to perceived loss, rejection, or humiliation, which triggers a disproportionate emotional reaction. When they… Read More Psychological Profile of This Behaviour (Property Damage After Disputes)