Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

Basic Contributions

At the core, this kind of behavior often stems from a deep discomfort with vulnerability and emotional accountability. Instead of facing the people they’ve hurt, admitting their failings, and doing the hard work of rebuilding trust, these individuals seek out new relationships where they don’t have to deal with the consequences of their past actions. It’s as if they think that by starting over with someone new, they can leave behind the mess they made with their original family.… Read More Basic Contributions

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Forge new connections

What’s worse is that this behavior can feel manipulative to those being “bought.” Imagine being on the receiving end of someone who, instead of dealing with their own family problems, tries to fast-track you into their inner circle with gifts, money, or favors. It can make you feel like you’re being used as a replacement, a stand-in for the family they’ve alienated. And that’s not real love or connection—it’s a transaction that’s bound to feel hollow over time.… Read More Forge new connections

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Beyond Repair

What’s most heartbreaking is that, at times, people don’t realize the damage they’ve done until it’s too late—when family members or friends have already distanced themselves beyond repair. Growth is possible, but only when someone has the courage to confront their behavior, learn from it, and actively work toward making things right.… Read More Beyond Repair

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Religion

Spiritual Reassurance: Religion often offers a framework for understanding suffering and adversity, providing believers with a sense of comfort during difficult times. Many religious traditions emphasize the idea that there is a greater purpose or plan, which can instill hope in individuals feeling lost or overwhelmed by their circumstances.

Rituals and Practices: Religious rituals—such as prayer, meditation, and worship—can create a sense of peace and stability. Engaging in these practices can offer solace, helping individuals feel connected to something larger than themselves.… Read More Religion

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Validation

For many victims, the capture of a criminal brings an overwhelming sense of relief. They may have lived in fear for a long time, especially in cases of violent crimes or where the criminal was at large for years. Knowing that the perpetrator is no longer a threat can bring a sense of safety and security that allows the victim to start healing more deeply.

This can also offer a sense of closure. For victims, justice isn’t always about retribution but about an acknowledgment that what happened to them was wrong and that society is holding the criminal accountable. When a criminal is finally caught, it can symbolize that the chapter of their life where they were victimized is coming to an end, allowing them to begin moving forward.… Read More Validation

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When the Therapist Needs a Therapist

Therapists: the emotional sherpas of modern society, helping us navigate the mountains of anxiety, valleys of existential dread, and wild rivers of unresolved childhood trauma. They sit in their chairs (probably ergonomic, let’s be real), nodding sagely, untangling our minds, offering sage wisdom like, “And how does that make you feel?” But what happens when they need… Read More When the Therapist Needs a Therapist

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Forgiving yourself

One of the most difficult parts of dealing with psychopathic manipulation is the overwhelming sense of self-blame that can arise. You might ask yourself, How did I not see the signs? How could I have fallen for their lies? Why didn’t I leave sooner? But remember: the very traits that make you vulnerable to a psychopath are also the traits that make you a good, compassionate person.

Empathy: One of the reasons psychopaths target empathetic people is because they know that compassionate individuals are more likely to overlook red flags in favor of giving them the benefit of the doubt. They exploit your goodness, using it against you.

Trust: Trust is a fundamental part of healthy relationships, and psychopaths skillfully create an illusion of trustworthiness. Once you’re invested in the relationship, they manipulate that trust for their own benefit.

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Psychopaths Head Games

Pitting people against each other is not only a tool to maintain control but often serves the psychopath’s desire for amusement or the thrill of watching others suffer. They can derive pleasure from watching people they’ve manipulated fight, struggle, or break down emotionally. This can happen within their immediate family, where they may create rivalries or divisions between siblings, partners, or extended family members, keeping everyone off balance and under their influence.… Read More Psychopaths Head Games

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Truth or Fantasy?

In social settings, this might manifest as “talking bollocks” – a casual, often lighthearted way to describe someone saying ridiculous or far-fetched things, especially when intoxicated. The brain’s usual filters and controls become more lax, so people might say things they wouldn’t usually dare, or weave elaborate stories that make no sense but feel entertaining at the moment.… Read More Truth or Fantasy?

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