Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

🧠 Maintaining Your Lifestyle Without Compromising Your Self-Worth

Mum and Me

The Psychology of Standards, Identity, and Financial Control There’s a profound difference between being spoilt and being cultured in quality.Some of us were raised to appreciate the finer things — not as excess, but as expressions of care, beauty, and dignity. When you grow up with standards, you’re not demanding; you’re maintaining a learned sense of what feels… Read More 🧠 Maintaining Your Lifestyle Without Compromising Your Self-Worth

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Tactical Guide: Presenting a Psychologist’s Report in Court

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

1️⃣ Structure the Report Clearly Executive Summary: Start with a short, neutral summary of the findings — objective and fact-based. Background: Include context: who was assessed, dates, sessions attended, and purpose of the evaluation. Methods: Clearly describe clinical tools, assessments, and observations used (standardized tests, structured interviews, behavioral observations). Findings: Stick to observable behaviors and measurable outcomes, not subjective opinions or labels.… Read More Tactical Guide: Presenting a Psychologist’s Report in Court

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1️⃣ Understand the Purpose of the Report

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

A psychologist’s report can serve multiple functions in a divorce: Child custody or parenting evaluations: Demonstrating the best interests of the child. Evidence of mental health issues or manipulation: Showing patterns of coercion, emotional abuse, or trauma. Supporting claims of abuse or misconduct: Providing professional, objective observations. Courts value objective, fact-based analysis over opinionated or emotional statements.… Read More 1️⃣ Understand the Purpose of the Report

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⚖️ Legal View (Court’s Perspective)

If a spouse is taking legal advice from a struck-off solicitor, this is not viewed favourably by the court. It raises serious doubts about that person’s judgment and reliability. Courts expect parties to rely on qualified, ethical, and regulated professionals for legal advice. A struck-off solicitor is not allowed to practise law or advise clients, so their involvement can be seen as inappropriate or even… Read More ⚖️ Legal View (Court’s Perspective)

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A. Lawyer changes

When one partner in a Spanish divorce keeps changing lawyers and re-framing their story, it tends to have both legaland psychological layers. Here’s how it works and what you can do: ⚖️ 1. The Legal Side (Spain) A. Lawyer changes In Spain, a party may change their abogado (lawyer) or procurador (court representative) at any time.Each change must be formally notified to the court. It doesn’t stop… Read More A. Lawyer changes

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⚖️ 1. Legal Perspective: Divorce Filings in Spain

✅ If you already filed first When one spouse files for divorce in Spain, that filing initiates the legal process — it becomes the active case.If your partner files a year later, the court generally will not open a new, separate case. Instead, the judge will usually: Join or dismiss the second filing, and Proceed with the first (the one that’s already in… Read More ⚖️ 1. Legal Perspective: Divorce Filings in Spain

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When They Threaten You with Court to Control You

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The psychology behind false defamation claims and emotional manipulation Sometimes, the people who shout the loudest about “defamation” are the very ones who’ve been spreading rumours themselves. When someone makes damaging or unkind comments about their own family and then threatens to take you to court for simply repeating or acknowledging them, it’s rarely about truth —… Read More When They Threaten You with Court to Control You

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Weaponising “Defamation”: When Legal Threats Become Emotional Control

In high-conflict situations — especially around divorce, family disputes, or separation — it’s not unusual for one person to threaten “I’ll take you to court for defamation” when something unflattering or uncomfortable is said.But often, these threats aren’t about justice or truth. They’re about control, fear, and power. ⚖️ 1. The Legal Smoke Screen In genuine defamation cases, the… Read More Weaponising “Defamation”: When Legal Threats Become Emotional Control

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Psychological Take: Boundaries = Safety

In psychology, boundaries aren’t control — they’re emotional safety.If you stay connected to exes, flings, or anyone who still wants more than friendship, you’re not being “open-minded,” you’re creating emotional confusion. Your nervous system can’t fully relax in a relationship that feels uncertain — and neither can your partner’s. Real love gives security, not anxiety.… Read More Psychological Take: Boundaries = Safety

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 Friendship differs from a romantic relationship

Let’s look at how friendship differs from a romantic relationship, both in the mind and in the brain. 🧠 Neuroscience Perspective 1. Shared biological systems Both friendship and romantic love activate the brain’s reward circuitry — especially areas like: Ventral tegmental area (VTA) and nucleus accumbens (dopamine reward system) Prefrontal cortex (decision-making, empathy, perspective-taking) Amygdala (emotional recognition and response) Oxytocin and vasopressin pathways (bonding and trust) The difference lies in intensity and neural… Read More  Friendship differs from a romantic relationship

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