Category: COERCIVE CONTROL

Coercive control refers to a pattern of abusive behavior in which one person uses various tactics to dominate, manipulate, and control another person, typically within an intimate or familial relationship. Unlike physical abuse, coercive control primarily relies on psychological, emotional, and sometimes economic tactics to exert power and control over the victim. This form of abuse is often insidious and can have profound and long-lasting effects on the victim’s well-being.

Coercive Control: When a Relationship Becomes About Power and Control

Coercive control is a subtle form of abuse that limits an individual’s autonomy through behaviors like monitoring, financial control, and isolation. Often difficult to recognize, especially for those over 40, it can manifest gradually, leading to hypervigilance and anxiety. Recognizing these patterns is vital for regaining personal freedom and healthy relationships.… Read More Coercive Control: When a Relationship Becomes About Power and Control

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Types and Indicators of Abuse

Understanding the Different Forms of Abuse — and the Signs to Look For

Abuse is not always obvious.

It isn’t always physical, and it doesn’t always leave visible injuries. Abuse can involve patterns of behaviour designed to control, intimidate, manipulate, isolate, humiliate or undermine another person.

A person may also experience more than one type of abuse at the same time.

Recognising the signs can be an important first step towards understanding what is happening.

Important: The presence of one indicator on its own should not be taken as proof that abuse is occurring. However, it may indicate that further assessment is needed. The examples below are not exhaustive, and individual circumstances should always be considered.… Read More Types and Indicators of Abuse

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Healthy Anger vs Abusive / Harmful Behaviour 

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The content outlines the distinctions between healthy anger and abusive behavior across various dimensions, including emotional tone, verbal expression, and physical actions. Healthy anger is described as regulated and communicative, while abusive behavior is characterized as dysregulated and controlling. The key message emphasizes that healthy anger maintains boundaries, whereas abusive anger creates fear and safety risks.… Read More Healthy Anger vs Abusive / Harmful Behaviour 

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Rebuild Your Self-Trust After Emotional Abuse

You may have left the relationship, but the self-doubt can remain. Emotional abuse can gradually undermine your confidence in your own thoughts, feelings, memories and decisions. You may find yourself constantly second-guessing yourself, apologising when you have done nothing wrong, feeling guilty for having needs, or wondering whether you were “the problem.” You weren’t too… Read More Rebuild Your Self-Trust After Emotional Abuse

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When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back

If you have survived an abusive or controlling relationship, you may still be trying to understand what happened. You may ask yourself: Why did I stay?Why did I keep hoping things would change?Why did I start doubting myself?Why do I still feel anxious, even though I’m away from the relationship?Why is it so difficult to… Read More When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back

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When Children Are Drawn Into Abuse and Coercive Control

One of the most damaging aspects of domestic abuse is when children or grandchildren become involved in adult conflicts. Whether intentionally or unintentionally, placing children in the middle of abusive dynamics can have lasting psychological consequences. Triangulation occurs when a third person—often a child—is drawn into a conflict between adults. This can involve carrying messages, taking… Read More When Children Are Drawn Into Abuse and Coercive Control

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Coercive and Controlling Behaviours: How Abusers Restrict Freedom

Abuse can manifest beyond physical violence, encompassing control over a person’s freedom, finances, communication, and access to information. Warning signs include restricting movement, financial manipulation, and digital control. Healthy relationships are rooted in trust and equality; recognizing patterns of coercive behavior is vital for seeking help and support.… Read More Coercive and Controlling Behaviours: How Abusers Restrict Freedom

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The Wedding Was Quick. The Control Lasted Thirty-Two Years.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

People look at the wedding photograph and ask the same question. “Why the rush?” Why a whirlwind wedding in Las Vegas? Why get married just before moving to France? Why sell your own secure home which took years to buy, give-up a successful career, financial independence, family and lifelong friends so quickly? For years, I… Read More The Wedding Was Quick. The Control Lasted Thirty-Two Years.

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