Here’s guidance on when not to get directly involved if you receive a report or notice concerning someone stalking or watching young children: 1. Do not confront the person 2. Do not investigate on your own 3. Avoid discussing with others unnecessarily 4. Do not assume intent 5. Do not try to intervene with children 6. When… Read More Receiver, recorder, and reporter
If someone who knows your ex well sends you a letter describing concerns about your ex’s behaviour, here’s how to handle it safely and appropriately: 1. Treat it as information, not evidence 2. Read and document carefully 3. Do not share the letter publicly 4. Assess immediate risk 5. Prepare a neutral, factual report Important: Avoid adding opinions, assumptions,… Read More Receiver and recorder, not investigator
It depends on intent, behaviour, and pattern, but persistent watching of children is a major red flag and can fall under criminal behaviour, even before physical contact. When “watching” becomes a concern It is not normal for an adult to: When this happens, it is often classified as predatory surveillance. Possible legal classifications (vary by country) Depending on behaviour and evidence, authorities may classify… Read More Stalking or watching young children — what is it?
What it is:A deliberate process where an adult (or older youth) builds trust with a child to prepare them for sexual exploitation. How it happens: Key legal point:👉 Grooming itself is a crime, even before any sexual images, contact, or abuse occur. Intent matters, not whether the child “agreed” or understood. Sextortion of minors What it is:Using sexual images, videos, or messages… Read More Grooming of minors
“What you never had, you don’t miss.”No anger.No nostalgia.Just accuracy.
Normal” is a myth invented by people with too much free time. My version: surviving life, laughing at everything that should probably make me cry, and occasionally pretending I have my stuff together. Spoiler: it works better than pretending to be normal ever did.
Staying physically and mentally healthy is a cornerstone of trauma recovery. Recovery isn’t just emotional; the body and mind need support to regulate, repair, and stay resilient. Here’s a structured approach for maintaining wellness during recovery: 1. Medical Health Regular check-ups keep you grounded and prevent neglect of your body: Consistency reinforces a sense of control over… Read More Regulate, Repair, and stay Resilient.
1. Core Pattern (The Loop) Visual cue: Circular arrows looping, red → orange → yellow → back to red. 2. Nervous System Impact Visual cue: Brain + body icon with wavy stress lines. 3. Psychological Reality Visual cue: Thought bubble with “always right / never wrong” label. 4. Protective Strategies Visual cue: Shield icons, green zones, arrows pointing away… Read More Relentless Abuser Pattern Map
Alcohol can have a profound and often counterproductive impact on trauma recovery, both neurologically and psychologically. Here’s a detailed breakdown: 1. Nervous System Impact Trauma leaves the nervous system hypervigilant. Alcohol: 2. Memory & Trauma Processing Essentially, alcohol blocks the brain from integrating the trauma safely. 3. Emotional Dysregulation 4. Interpersonal Impact 5. Risk of Re-traumatization 6. Why… Read More Memory & Trauma Processing
When you’re traumatised, your nervous system is not choosing behaviour — it’s protecting you. So what looks like “wrecking the relationship” is often: None of this is character failure.It’s unhealed threat memory meeting intimacy. Why trauma sabotages something that matters Trauma does three things in relationships: 1. It mistakes closeness for danger When connection deepens, the body remembers:… Read More What “messing up” in trauma really is
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 