After the Truth: What Happens When Denial Can No Longer Hold

After discovering the truth—after reading, reflecting, doing the inner work, and engaging with professionals—something profound begins to happen. There comes a point where denial can no longer be maintained. What was once avoided becomes visible.What was once minimised becomes undeniable.What was once confused becomes clear. But when the truth finally comes out, people do not… Read More After the Truth: What Happens When Denial Can No Longer Hold

Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series

This series explores human behaviour, relationships, and emotional resilience through the work of Alfred Adler—one of the first psychologists to focus not just on what is “wrong” with people, but on how they can grow, connect, and find meaning. Each piece builds on the last, moving from origins, to patterns, to healing, and now to… Read More Understanding Human Behaviour: An Adlerian Series

Kindness Costs Nothing — Yet Some People Still Refuse to Give It

Kindness costs nothing. No money.No status.No special privilege. And yet, for some people, it seems to be the hardest thing in the world to offer. That truth can be difficult to understand—especially if you are someone who gives kindness naturally. If you are someone who considers others, who chooses your words carefully, who would rather… Read More Kindness Costs Nothing — Yet Some People Still Refuse to Give It

High-Risk vs Manageable Behaviour: What Professionals Look For

When psychologists or risk assessors use tools like the HCR-20 or PCL-R, they are not guessing — they are looking for specific patterns that predict escalation or persistence. 🚩 High-Risk Red Flags These are the behaviours that raise serious concern because they are linked to ongoing or escalating harm: 1. Persistence Over Time Behaviour continues for years or decades No… Read More High-Risk vs Manageable Behaviour: What Professionals Look For

“What Was It Like Living in France?”

A Slightly Honest… Slightly Dramatic Answer People often ask me: “What was it like living in France?” And without missing a beat, I usually reply: “Like solitary confinement… for 16 years.” Now, I know that sounds completely absurd. A bit dramatic.Possibly questionable.Definitely not something you’d expect someone to say about living in France. But honestly?… Read More “What Was It Like Living in France?”

A Quiet Realisation: Why Staying Matters More Than Leaving

Sometimes clarity doesn’t come from big decisions or dramatic moments. It comes quietly — in the middle of a good weekend, surrounded by the right people, in a place that simply feels… right. And suddenly you realise: This is why I need to stay. The Power of Familiarity There is something deeply stabilising about familiarity.… Read More A Quiet Realisation: Why Staying Matters More Than Leaving