Tag: Psychology

Repeated Mercenary Behaviour

What you’re describing is very real, very deliberate, and disturbingly common. In high-conflict divorces—especially where one party has narcissistic or controlling tendencies—tactics like harassment, bullying, and even vandalism are not just random acts of cruelty. They are strategic psychological warfare. The goal? To destabilize, deplete, and eventually break down the other party so severely that they will settle for less—less… Read More Repeated Mercenary Behaviour

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Its a Cruel World

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

What I’ve been through this week—it has been tough, overwhelming, and at times absurd. When we are met with contradictions, fear tactics, threats, and even personal violations like vandalism, it can feel like we’re being psychologically yanked in every direction. It’s exhausting. And sadly, yes—we are in a time where emotional toxicity, manipulation, and fakeness are rampant.… Read More Its a Cruel World

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“Digging Their Own Grave: Why Families Interfere — and Make Everything Worse”

A psychological insight into control, denial, and destruction When a relationship breaks down—especially one involving abuse, control, and trauma—the last thing anyone needs is a Greek chorus of interfering in-laws, whispering from the sidelines and trying to orchestrate the next act. But here we are. What could have been a straightforward legal separation—a 50/50 divorce,… Read More “Digging Their Own Grave: Why Families Interfere — and Make Everything Worse”

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How Can One Person Cause So Much Harm—and Enjoy It?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

A Look at the Psychology and Neuroscience Behind Cruelty Some people don’t just hurt others—they seem to relish it. Every insult. Every lie. Every manipulation. Every broken boundary or bruise—they feed off it like oxygen.And if you’ve been on the receiving end, you know the aftermath: confusion, shame, trauma, broken trust, and the haunting question… “How… Read More How Can One Person Cause So Much Harm—and Enjoy It?

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The theory of the last meeting is a psychological and philosophical idea that suggests:

You never know when you are seeing someone for the last time—so every interaction matters. It’s a deeply emotional and existential concept that is often used in grief work, trauma therapy, end-of-life care, and even in spiritual traditions. The core message is about presence, compassion, and the significance of our final words or actions in a… Read More The theory of the last meeting is a psychological and philosophical idea that suggests:

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💔 You Know What’s Worse Than Abuse? Watching Someone Enable It.

There is someone out there — living in the same house, standing in the same room, watching the same cruelty unfold — and doing absolutely nothing about it. In fact, they might even be encouraging it. Laughing. Minimizing it. Whispering behind closed doors. Turning away while you’re isolated, intimidated, psychologically broken down piece by piece. And you ask yourself, Why?Why… Read More 💔 You Know What’s Worse Than Abuse? Watching Someone Enable It.

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🧠 1. The Developing Brain: Why Protection Matters

Protecting your children and grandchildren—both online and in real life—is one of the most vital responsibilities we hold as adults. From a neuroscientific and psychological perspective, it’s not just about setting limits or saying “no.” It’s about shaping the developing brain, nurturing emotional safety, and building the inner compass that helps children protect themselves even when you’re not there. Here’s a full, rich… Read More 🧠 1. The Developing Brain: Why Protection Matters

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A GENTLE NOTE IF YOU’RE COMING FROM TRAUMA

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

When a doctor refers you to a sexologist in Spain, it usually means they recognize that your concern involves sexual health, intimacy, or emotional well-being connected to sexuality — and that these issues are best addressed by a professional with specialized training in sexology. This referral can happen through public healthcare (Sistema Nacional de Salud) or through a private system, and the… Read More A GENTLE NOTE IF YOU’RE COMING FROM TRAUMA

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🔍 What is a Sadist? Understanding the Darker Side of Human Behaviour

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

In everyday language, we often use “sadistic” casually — to describe someone who seems cruel or enjoys others’ discomfort. But there’s a deeper psychological and neurological reality behind this term that we must understand, especially when it shows up in close relationships. 💔 Definition: A sadist is someone who derives pleasure—sometimes even emotional or sexual gratification—from the suffering,… Read More 🔍 What is a Sadist? Understanding the Darker Side of Human Behaviour

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🌈 “If I Were a Woman, I’d Fancy Him”: When Post-Breakup Clarity Reveals Identity Clues

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

A Psychological Look at Repressed Desire, Theatrical Expression, and Emotional Disconnection It’s often after the relationship ends that certain patterns become crystal clear. You start noticing things that were always there — but you were too close, too loyal, too worn down to fully grasp. In hindsight, you now see: Your ex-partner regularly commented on how good-looking men were… Read More 🌈 “If I Were a Woman, I’d Fancy Him”: When Post-Breakup Clarity Reveals Identity Clues

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