Contrary to popular belief, abuse isn’t just about anger or bad temper. At its core, abuse is about control — control of another person’s thoughts, behaviors, choices, and identity. An abuser’s mindset is often built on: 1. Entitlement They believe they are owed obedience, loyalty, emotional caretaking, and access to the other person’s time, energy, and body. “You’re mine.”“You should… Read More 🧠 The Mindset of an Abuser: Control, Not Chaos
When They Move On to the Next Victim Let’s be clear:There was nothing subtle about the abuse I endured.It was hidden — yes.Wrapped in charm, private shadows, and public smiles — yes.But subtle? No.Abuse is abuse.It’s manipulation.It’s gaslighting.It’s control, fear, humiliation, and psychological warfare. And no matter how they disguise it — behind a new relationship, a… Read More 💔 “There Was Nothing Subtle About It”
Post 6: “You Need Help — You’re Unstable” — Weaponizing Mental Health to Discredit You 💬 “You need help.”💬 “You’re unstable.”💬 “I’ve spoken to your friends — they agree with me.”💬 “You have a memory problem. Something’s wrong with you.” These are not concerns. They’re control tactics dressed up as concern. 🚩 What’s Really Happening? When someone repeatedly tells you… Read More 📌 Recognizing Subtle Abuse Patterns
It sounds like a joke — and in some ways, it is — but for many, this statement lands with a gut-wrenching truth. Narcissists are not known for their slow-burning, soul-deep connections. They’re known for love-bombing — grand gestures, intense declarations, and whirlwind romance that sweeps you off your feet before your feet ever get… Read More 💔 “No one falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs somewhere to live.” 🏡
One of the most painful chapters in a survivor’s story is watching an abuser move on quickly—often to a new partner—while continuing to torment you from a distance. To outsiders, they appear reformed, romantic, even healed. But if you’ve lived through emotional or narcissistic abuse, you know how this pattern works. You may wonder: When will… Read More 🔁 “When Will They Turn on the New Partner?” – Understanding Abuse Patterns Through Psychology & Neuroscience
When the Abuser’s World Unravels – Understanding the Hidden Fallout of Losing Control After decades of manipulating, gaslighting, and feeding off another person’s emotional energy, some abusers finally find themselves isolated—cut off from their primary “supply” of control. When the person they’ve depended on as a human punching bag, a source of validation, or an emotional… Read More Self-Destruction or Implosion:
There’s a brutal cycle in the world of emotional abuse and manipulation. Sometimes, the same toxic person moves from one target to another, leaving a trail of mental scars and shattered confidence. They try the same tactics, the same subtle assaults on your sense of self, your spirit, and your will to keep going. And… Read More When Someone Tries to Break You Mentally — Again — But You Come Back Stronger
“Not the Person You Think They Are” Series | #EmotionalAbuse #PostSeparationAbuse #TraumaRecovery Some breakups bring relief. Others begin a new chapter of torment. For survivors of emotionally or psychologically abusive relationships, separation does not always mean peace. In fact, it can trigger a new and insidious phase of abuse — one that is legal, social,… Read More “When Vindictiveness Doesn’t End: The Psychology of Post-Breakup Retaliation”By Linda C J Turner Therapy
Some people dig themselves deeper with every move they make—not because they’re misunderstood, but because they truly believe they are the law. They believe they can intimidate, manipulate, and control others, and perhaps in the past, they’ve succeeded. Maybe with friends. Maybe even with family. Maybe with people too kind, too shocked, or too weary to stand… Read More 💥 When Control Becomes Obsession: Standing Strong Against Intimidation and Manipulation
There was a time when success was earned—not taken. A time when your word meant something, and integrity was the currency of character. But in today’s world, those values are often drowned out by a louder, shinier culture of entitlement, where some will stoop to unthinkable depths just to maintain a lifestyle they haven’t earned.… Read More 🎭 Not the Person You Think They Are: When Manipulation Masquerades as Charm
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 