Lately, something in my life is shifting.It’s not loud or dramatic — it’s quiet, soulful, and deeply real.Not forced. Not chased. Just… unfolding. There was a time I surrounded myself with people who didn’t reflect my values, who couldn’t meet me in faith, truth, or emotional honesty. I didn’t always see it then, but I… Read More When Your Soul Shifts, So Does the Circle Around You
Last night, something unexpected happened. Out of the blue, someone who has quietly followed my Facebook for many years reached out. We had never spoken before — and yet, in a moment when the storm around me felt relentless, her message was like a calm wind through the chaos. We spoke about God, about truth, and about integrity.Not… Read More Divine Timing: A Thank You to the Beautiful Soul Who Reached Out
There’s a name for what happens when you want something to be true so badly that your brain bends the facts to protect the belief. It’s called motivated reasoning. It’s not ignorance.It’s not stupidity.It’s the brain’s attempt to protect you from emotional pain, from disillusionment, from the devastation of facing something — or someone — who’s not who you thought… Read More 🧠💭 Motivated Reasoning: When We Believe What We Want, Not What Is 💭🧠
“When it comes to truth or lies, there is no contest. I know the truth. He knows the truth. Everyone does. So how long can he keep up the lies, especially as life draws to a close?” It’s a haunting question—one that many survivors of abuse wrestle with. When an abuser nears the end of… Read More 🧠 When the Truth Stands Alone: The Neuroscience and Psychology of Lying at the End of an Abuser’s Life
Sometimes in life — especially after we’ve broken free from toxic dynamics — we find ourselves faced with accusations that don’t just miss the mark… they’re miles away from who we truly are. One of the most confusing?Being accused of jealousy. “You’re just jealous.”“Is that why you’re acting like this — because you’re jealous?”“You’ve always… Read More Jealous? Of Who? Of What?” — The Baffling Accusation That Says More About Them Than You
✨ Honesty or Lies — You Decide ✨The cost of protecting appearances vs. standing in truth. Behind closed doors, the masks often slip. He pretended to be fair, to have integrity, to be “above all that.” But when his nephew married — a same-sex couple deeply in love and committing their lives to one another — he… Read More ✨ Honesty or Lies — You Decide
There are people who bravely battle real illness every day—people who fight in silence, with dignity, without demanding the world revolve around their suffering. And then… there are those who weaponize illness. People who perform sickness to gain sympathy, dodge responsibility, and manipulate the people around them into endless circles of concern, guilt, and servitude. It’s a… Read More 🎭 Lifetime of Lies: When Illness Becomes a Performance, Not a Condition
There’s something profoundly unsettling about watching those who shout the loudest about morality, legality, or integrity—while simultaneously turning a blind eye to their own transgressions, or worse, those of their family. It’s a story as old as time. A person accuses another of being involved in something “wrong,” “shameful,” or even “illegal”—but conveniently forgets that… Read More “When the Finger-Pointing Reveals More Than Just Accusation” – A Reflection on Hypocrisy, Double Standards, and the Psychology of Blame
There is a kind of lie that doesn’t hide in the shadows — it parades in broad daylight, cloaked in the language of integrity. This is the lie told by the “honest liar” — the person who insists they always tell the truth, while quietly weaving a web of deception. I knew one intimately. He… Read More The Honest Liar: A Tale of Deception Disguised as Integrity
When a partner allows others—especially family members—to disrespect or defame their significant other, that breach of loyalty is not just hurtful; it’s destabilizing. It breaks the emotional safety that relationships are built on. And when the damage extends to stepchildren, creating alienation and loss of trust, reconciliation might not just feel impossible—it might be inappropriate unless profound… Read More 🦋 Final Thought: Once the Line Has Been Crossed…
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 