It’s one of life’s great mysteries: how smart, capable, discerning women sometimes end up with men who are… well… the exact opposite of all that. Shallow? Check. Mean? Check. Ugly inside and out? Double check. A friend of mine summed it up bluntly one day: “How did you end up with someone like that?” And honestly, I’ve… Read More Should Have Gone to Specsavers: How Did I End Up With Him?
Returning to the themes of her classic The Drama of the Gifted Child, the famed psychoanalyst examines the consequences of cruelty to children and offers ways we can heal our early psychic wounds. . More than twenty years ago, a little-known Swiss psychoanalyst wrote a book that changed the way many people viewed themselves and… Read More The Truth Will Set You Free
1. Truth and Lies Start to Blur At first, the brain knows it’s lying: the prefrontal cortex (self-control, logic) has to inhibit the truth while fabricating something else. The amygdala sparks stress and guilt. But with repetition, two things happen: This is how chronic liars end up believing their own lies. The brain rewires itself so thoroughly that the line… Read More 🧠 The Brain on Long-Term Lying
In the early stages of dating, there’s one universal truth:you’re not just meeting for coffee or dinner — you’re setting the tone for how she will feel with you in her life. If the opening chapter of your story feels rushed, stingy, or indifferent, she’s already closing the book. 1. The Power of the Honeymoon Period The… Read More Taking Out a Lady — The Art of Making Her Feel Cherished
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul—and for good reason. Our eyes reveal far more than we realise: emotions, intentions, even subtle shifts in mood. For someone who has lived decades looking into eyes that were cold, empty, or cruel, learning to seek kindness in a person’s gaze isn’t just a preference—it’s… Read More Kind Eyes: Why We Seek the Soul in a Glance
Some men lie so effortlessly, you’d think deception was a second language.They flirt with danger, dance between lies, and move through life like a magician—flashing a dazzling smile with one hand while hiding the dirty truth behind their back with the other. But here’s the thing about confidence tricksters:They always forget that not everyone is fooled.Some… Read More 🔥 Beware the Confidence Trickster: The Man Who Thought We’d Never Catch On
Ah yes… Rumplestiltskin — not the fairytale version who spins straw into gold, but the real-life one some of us dated, married, or (blessedly) divorced. In my case, friends and family gave him that nickname early on. Why?Because if you dared to challenge him, disagree, or — God forbid — say “no,” he would literally jump up and… Read More 😂 Rumplestiltskin Strikes Again: When Tantrums Wear a Suit and Tie
There’s something deeply satisfying — almost sacred — about chucking things out. Not just old receipts and mismatched socks, but the emotional landfill too. Especially when the stuff you’re binning belonged to someone who treated your heart like a doormat and your kindness like an overdraft. I found myself knee-deep in the Buena Vista Tennis Club Diaries, May… Read More 🧹 Clear It Out, Laugh It Off, Move On: The Break-Up Spring Clean You Didn’t Know You Needed
Forget the diamonds. Skip the grand gestures. You know what really sets the tone for a beautiful day? A smiling face before 9am.That soft, sleepy grin.The kind of smile that says, “You’re safe here.”That look that makes you feel like the most loved person in the room—even if it’s just the two of you and a slightly moody… Read More ☕ A Smiling Face First Thing in the Morning… Now That’s a Turn On 💋
Well, here we are again. Just back from the DIY store with a trolley full of goodies: filler, cement, paint, brushes, rollers—everything short of a bulldozer. Why? Because after three years of neglect, yet another house is whispering “please help me.” And of course, I’m the one answering the call. Honestly, it’s not even shocking anymore. If… Read More 🖌️ “The Lazy King’s Throne: A DIY Widow’s Guide to Fixing What He Never Did”
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 