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Moving on: Embracing a fresh start by letting go of the past

Moving house is often more than just a physical relocation—it’s a deeply emotional journey, especially when it involves sorting through years of shared memories and possessions. For many, the process of packing and unpacking can feel like reliving the past repeatedly, stirring up complex feelings and unresolved attachments. After packing and unpacking multiple times, the… Read More Moving on: Embracing a fresh start by letting go of the past

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Cruelty When No One’s Watching

In a lesser-known series of experiments within Social Psychology, researchers explored a simple but uncomfortable question: What do people do when they believe no one is watching? What they found challenges the comforting belief that cruelty is rare or limited to “bad people.” When anonymity increases, accountability drops. And when accountability drops, a small but significant number… Read More Cruelty When No One’s Watching

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Staying Was Survival—Leaving Was Transformation

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Redefining beauty, strength, and self-worth after divorce In a world that constantly measures beauty by appearance, we often forget where true beauty actually lives. To be beautiful on the inside is to embrace our humanity with grace. It is not about perfection, nor about always getting things right. It is about allowing ourselves to feel… Read More Staying Was Survival—Leaving Was Transformation

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From Waiting… to Re-Engaging with Life

“God’s waiting room” is a state of pause that goes too far. It’s when the mind and body stop reaching forward. The future feels closed, identity feels uncertain, and energy turns inward instead of outward. A warrior’s heart does something different. Not louder. Not harder. Just… different. It re-engages. The psychological shift In Psychology, the difference comes… Read More From Waiting… to Re-Engaging with Life

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You should not be the one excluded or prevented from attending.

If you have a restraining order (“orden de alejamiento”) against your ex, the responsibility is on him to stay away from you—not the other way around. ⚖️ What the law in Spain says A restraining order means: 👉 If he attends an event knowing you will be there, he is at risk of breaching the order. 🚫 Being prevented from attending… Read More You should not be the one excluded or prevented from attending.

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When You Finally Let Go: The Power of Surrendering to Something Greater

There comes a point in life where strength no longer looks like pushing harder. It looks like…putting it down. Not because you’re weak.Not because you’ve given up.But because you’ve reached the edge of what control can do —and you’re wise enough to recognise it. For so long, you’ve held everything together.You’ve carried, fixed, anticipated, protected.You’ve made… Read More When You Finally Let Go: The Power of Surrendering to Something Greater

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When You Realise They Never Intended to Honour Your Last Wishes

There is a particular kind of grief that comes not from loss —but from realisation. The moment you understand that your last wishes were never going to be honoured.That agreements were never agreements.That consent was never consent.That cooperation was only performance. And that from the very beginning, the secrets were already locked inside the briefcase. The Psychology… Read More When You Realise They Never Intended to Honour Your Last Wishes

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What Makes a Person Cruel? A Psychological Perspective

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Cruelty is not just about actions — it is about the mindset, patterns, and unresolved inner dynamics that drive harm. Psychologists identify several key factors that contribute to cruelty: 1️⃣ Early Life and Attachment Trauma 2️⃣ Lack of Empathy 3️⃣ Need for Control and Power 4️⃣ Personality and Behavioral Traits 5️⃣ Learned Behavior and Social… Read More What Makes a Person Cruel? A Psychological Perspective

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Behind the Mask: Why Abusers Misread Social Support and How Communities Respond

Abusers often live under the illusion that they are admired, untouchable, or in control. They misread silence as acceptance, compliance as respect, and avoidance as fear-based loyalty. But the reality is far more nuanced. In almost every social environment — from small towns and cliques to workplaces and extended family networks — people notice patterns… Read More Behind the Mask: Why Abusers Misread Social Support and How Communities Respond

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Are People Born Cruel — or Is Cruelty Learned?

People are not born cruel.Cruelty is learned, reinforced, and practiced over time. From a neuroscience perspective: Cruelty becomes conditioned behavior, not an innate trait. How Cruelty Becomes Reinforced in the Brain When someone harms another person and experiences: …the brain releases dopamine. Over time: This is why cruelty can escalate if unchecked. Can Long-Term Cruelty Be Fixed? It depends — and… Read More Are People Born Cruel — or Is Cruelty Learned?

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