Coercive Control: When a Relationship Becomes About Power and Control

Coercive control is a subtle form of abuse that limits an individual’s autonomy through behaviors like monitoring, financial control, and isolation. Often difficult to recognize, especially for those over 40, it can manifest gradually, leading to hypervigilance and anxiety. Recognizing these patterns is vital for regaining personal freedom and healthy relationships.… Read More Coercive Control: When a Relationship Becomes About Power and Control

Types and Indicators of Abuse

Understanding the Different Forms of Abuse — and the Signs to Look For

Abuse is not always obvious.

It isn’t always physical, and it doesn’t always leave visible injuries. Abuse can involve patterns of behaviour designed to control, intimidate, manipulate, isolate, humiliate or undermine another person.

A person may also experience more than one type of abuse at the same time.

Recognising the signs can be an important first step towards understanding what is happening.

Important: The presence of one indicator on its own should not be taken as proof that abuse is occurring. However, it may indicate that further assessment is needed. The examples below are not exhaustive, and individual circumstances should always be considered.… Read More Types and Indicators of Abuse

Healthy Anger vs Abusive / Harmful Behaviour 

The content outlines the distinctions between healthy anger and abusive behavior across various dimensions, including emotional tone, verbal expression, and physical actions. Healthy anger is described as regulated and communicative, while abusive behavior is characterized as dysregulated and controlling. The key message emphasizes that healthy anger maintains boundaries, whereas abusive anger creates fear and safety risks.… Read More Healthy Anger vs Abusive / Harmful Behaviour 

“Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

Abuse thrives in secrecy.

Whether it is physical violence, coercive control, emotional abuse, financial abuse or sexual abuse, perpetrators often rely on silence to continue their behaviour.

When victims are discouraged from speaking, or when those around them minimise what they disclose, the abusive behaviour can become more frequent, more severe and more dangerous.

Silence is not a solution.… Read More “Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

Rebuild Your Self-Trust After Emotional Abuse

You may have left the relationship, but the self-doubt can remain. Emotional abuse can gradually undermine your confidence in your own thoughts, feelings, memories and decisions. You may find yourself constantly second-guessing yourself, apologising when you have done nothing wrong, feeling guilty for having needs, or wondering whether you were “the problem.” You weren’t too… Read More Rebuild Your Self-Trust After Emotional Abuse

When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back

If you have survived an abusive or controlling relationship, you may still be trying to understand what happened. You may ask yourself: Why did I stay?Why did I keep hoping things would change?Why did I start doubting myself?Why do I still feel anxious, even though I’m away from the relationship?Why is it so difficult to… Read More When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back

When Alcohol, Medication and Instant Delivery Become a Dangerous Combination

The risks we don’t always think about Today, getting almost anything delivered to your door can take just a few taps on a phone. Food. Alcohol. Painkillers. Cold and flu remedies. Sleep aids. Allergy medication. Convenience can be wonderful — particularly when you’re unwell, exhausted or unable to get to a pharmacy or shop. But… Read More When Alcohol, Medication and Instant Delivery Become a Dangerous Combination

Generational Trauma, Addiction & Abuse

I have a particular interest in the complex relationship between generational trauma, addiction, emotional abuse and dysfunctional family patterns. Trauma does not always begin with the person seeking support. Sometimes the patterns we are struggling with today have developed within a family over many years or even generations. Children can grow up learning relationship patterns, emotional… Read More Generational Trauma, Addiction & Abuse