Here’s a neuroscience and psychology lens on the questions

Those questions aren’t random—they tend to show up when people are trying to “map” your situation, consciously or not. Some of it is curiosity, some of it is social positioning, and some of it can be concern (even if it comes out clumsily).

Here’s a neuroscience and psychology lens on the questions—and your responses:

1. “How are you?”

What’s behind it: A social norm, but also a quick emotional scan. The brain is wired for threat detection and reassurance—people are often checking, “Are you okay now?”
Your answer: “Great thanks, doing really well.”
What it signals: Regulation, recovery, and closure. You’re communicating safety and stability—this calms other people’s uncertainty.

2. “Where are you living?”

What’s behind it: Humans seek predictability. Location = safety in the brain’s map. They’re subconsciously asking, “Are you settled? Are you secure?”
Your answer: “Still in the same area, safe and protected by good friends and the Guardia Civil.”
What it signals: Strong boundaries and a secure support system. You’re clearly communicating: I am not vulnerable.

3. “Are you moving out of the area?”

What’s behind it: Change detection. The brain flags instability or transition as potential risk. They may also be testing whether you’re still “in flux.”
Your answer: “No, I don’t intend to move.”
What it signals: Certainty and control. You’ve moved out of survival mode into decision-making mode.

4. “Where is your ex living?”

What’s behind it: This is more loaded. It can be curiosity, gossip, or risk assessment (“Is he nearby?”). The brain is trying to complete the “story.”
Your answer: “I have no idea—why would I even be interested?”
What it signals: Psychological detachment. You’ve cut the cognitive tie. That’s a strong indicator of healing.

5. “Have you seen him?”

What’s behind it: Safety checking. People are often assessing potential ongoing threat or drama.
Your answer: “No, and I don’t want to.”
What it signals: Clear boundary setting and self-protection. You’re reinforcing: that chapter is closed.

The deeper pattern (neuroscience + psychology):

People are wired to seek narrative closure—they want to “complete the picture” in their minds.
The brain prefers certainty over ambiguity, so they ask questions to reduce their own discomfort.
There’s also an element of social comparison and positioning—understanding where you are now relative to before.
When someone has been through a difficult or high-conflict situation, others often become unintentionally intrusive because their threat-detection system stays activated longer than yours does.

What your answers show overall: