Growing up, we didn’t have a mansion or unlimited wealth. My mother lived in modest homes, but she knew how to live well. She believed life was for enjoying. She saved for beautiful holidays in elegant hotels, dressed well, appreciated quality, loved good food, and enjoyed meals in wonderful restaurants. It wasn’t about showing off—it… Read More I Didn’t Marry for Money… I Settled for Less Than I Deserved
Today, something unexpected happened at the padel court. A rat darted across our path. There was the usual shriek, a few people jumped, and then everyone burst into laughter. Without missing a beat, I smiled and said: “I’m used to rats… I lived with one for 32 years!” The laughter was instant. Not because anyone… Read More The Rat at the Padel Court
There is one sentence I have replayed in my mind many times over the years. “I was warned… but I chose to ignore it.” At the time, I wanted to believe people could change. I wanted to believe love, patience and understanding would be enough. So, when someone in the village where I lived in… Read More “I Was Warned… But I Chose to Ignore It”
One of the clearest lessons I have learned is this: Pay attention to how someone treats those who are most vulnerable. Not how they treat people they want to impress. Not how they behave when others are watching. But how they treat those who have little power to defend themselves. Children. Older people. Animals. A… Read More When Cruelty Becomes a Pattern
When starting a new relationship, it is natural to focus on chemistry, attraction and hope for the future. But psychology reminds us that past patterns deserve careful attention. If someone has been through two relationships in which abuse has been alleged or found, it doesn’t automatically mean they are abusive in every future relationship. Allegations and legal… Read More Twice Divorced Following Allegations of Abuse: Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore
Gratitude, Friendship, and a Fresh Start As I prepare to move into my new home later this week, my heart is full of gratitude. To the precious friends who have offered their time, energy, and kindness to help me move—thank you. Your generosity has restored my faith in human nature. It is a beautiful reminder… Read More Fresh start
In forensic investigations, timing can be just as important as the actions themselves. Imagine that, within 24 hours of a significant incident, a person: Each of these actions may have an entirely innocent explanation when viewed in isolation. However, when several significant changes occur within a very short period following a serious incident, investigators, forensic… Read More When Major Changes Happen Immediately After an Incident
One question I hear surprisingly often is: “Why is his ex-wife still watching me?” Sometimes it isn’t just your social media. It’s your children’s. Your family members’. Your friends’. Months or even years after the relationship has ended, she still seems interested in what is happening in your life. Why? The honest answer is that only… Read More Why Is His Ex-Wife Still Watching You? The Psychology of Social Media Monitoring
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One of the most valuable lessons neuroscience and psychology teach us is this: Behaviour that is repeated over many years often becomes a deeply ingrained habit. Our brains become efficient at repeating behaviours that have produced a desired outcome in the past. Through reinforcement and habit formation, certain ways of thinking and acting can become… Read More Observe the Pattern, Not Just the Person
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 