You know the ones…

“How are you?”
“Where are you living?”
“Are you moving?”
“Where’s your ex now?”
“Have you seen him?”

On the surface, just questions.
But if you understand human behaviour, you know—they’re rarely just questions.

People are wired to make sense of things.
To fill in the gaps.
To assess risk, safety, stability… even when it’s not their story to analyse.

So here are my answers:

I’m great. Genuinely.
I’m exactly where I choose to be—safe, settled, and supported by good people (and yes, the Guardia Civil included).
I’m not going anywhere.
I have no idea where he is—and no interest in finding out.
And no, I haven’t seen him. Nor do I want to.

Simple.

What’s interesting isn’t the questions—
it’s what sits underneath them.

Curiosity.
Uncertainty.
Sometimes concern.
Sometimes something else.

But here’s the thing:

When you’ve done the work,
when your nervous system is no longer in survival mode,
when you’ve detached from what once disturbed your peace…

Your answers become very clear.
Very calm.
Very final.

No emotion. No over-explaining. No loose ends.

And that tends to tell people everything they were really trying to find out.

Without you saying anything more at all.