The belief in one’s own invincibility can be intoxicating. For some, this manifests as a quiet overconfidence; for others, it spirals into hubris so great that they openly disregard laws, court orders, and basic moral boundaries. Continuously breaking a restraining order, for example, is not simply a matter of poor judgment—it reflects a deep psychological… Read More The Dangerous Illusion of Being Above the Law
By: Someone Who’s Finally Had Enough There comes a time in every survivor’s life when you stop asking “Why did he do that?” and start asking “Why is his stuff still here?” So here we are: armed with a bin bag, a Spotify delete button, and the sudden realisation that neuroscience has been on our side all along.… Read More The Great Final Clearance Sale — Everything Must Go (Including the Abuser)
The Adele and Rumer CDs missing out of their cases that I bought for him that he use to play to me over and over again in the car, the anniversary and valentines cards left behind, hidden items tucked away — isn’t random.It’s part of a pattern of psychological control and emotional intrusion that some abusers use… Read More Control by Proxy: Objects as Triggers
When families get trapped in cycles of blame, defensiveness, and bitterness, what you’re seeing is not just a psychological problem — it’s also a neurological and relational wiring problem.From a neuroscience perspective, here’s what’s happening under the surface, and why many of these families remain stuck for years, sometimes generations. 1. The Brain’s Defensive Loop When people feel criticised… Read More The Brain’s Defensive Loop
Alright — here’s your Dream Decoding Guide so you can interpret dreams in a way that’s grounded in neuroscienceand personalised to your own brain’s symbolic language. Step 1 — Capture the Dream Before It Fades Neuroscience shows that within 90 seconds of waking, most dream details begin to dissolve because your hippocampus shifts back to wake-mode. Step 2 — Break the… Read More Dream Decoding Guide
Dreams are fascinating because they’re like your brain’s night-time theatre, blending memory, emotion, and creativity into symbolic (and sometimes downright bizarre) stories.From a neuroscience point of view, they’re not random — they’re your brain doing very specific work while you sleep. 1. Why We Dream — The Brain’s Night Shift When you enter REM sleep (rapid eye movement phase), your… Read More Dreams
Alright — here’s your Gentle 6-Month Roadmap for a New Relationship(no pressure, no games — just natural, brain-friendly connection building) Month 1 — Discovery & Spark Brain focus: Dopamine + novelty Psychology tip: Resist the urge to “future project.” Let your nervous system learn they are safe at a pace that feels easy. Month 2 — Building Familiarity… Read More Roadmap
When you begin a new relationship and simply let it flow, without forcing declarations, timelines, or “The Big Talk,” you’re actually working with your brain’s natural bonding systems instead of against them. Here’s what to expect — through both a neuroscience and psychological lens: 1. The Early Brain Chemistry Cocktail When you meet someone new, your brain releases a potent mix of… Read More Flow
There’s a mix of biology, psychology, and culture behind why many women are drawn to taller men — though it’s worth saying upfront that it’s a tendency, not a universal rule. Plenty of women prefer average-height or shorter partners, and attraction is always more complex than just a number on a height chart. Here’s the breakdown:… Read More A tall man
Not all abusers look cruel. In fact, some of the most dangerous individuals are the ones who seem the most charming at first. They can present as warm, engaging, and trustworthy—until the mask slips. This “Jekyll and Hyde” personality shift is more than just unsettling; it’s a calculated strategy of manipulation. 1. The Eyes Many… Read More The Hidden Danger: Neuroscience & Psychology of Spotting an Abuser Before It’s Too Late
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 