Anxiety is a complex and multifaceted emotional experience that is a normal part of the human condition. It can manifest in various forms and degrees, ranging from occasional worry to more intense and persistent feelings of fear and apprehension. Given your interest in trauma therapy, neuroscience, and emotional intelligence, exploring anxiety from these perspectives can provide a comprehensive understanding.
The story of Susan Kuhnhausen is extraordinary. She survived because she possessed a rare combination of experience, training, physical skill, and the ability to remain functional under extreme stress. She had spent thirty years as an emergency room nurse. She had treated violent injuries. She had encountered people in crisis. She had practised self-defence techniques,… Read More Why Most Survivors Are Not Susan Kuhnhausen
Some people can become emotionally or behaviourally unstable when they stop taking prescribed psychiatric medication abruptly — especially if the medication was helping manage serious symptoms related to conditions such as Bipolar Disorder, Schizophrenia, severe depression, psychosis, or certain personality and mood disorders. But it’s important to say this carefully and accurately: mental illness itself… Read More Mental illness itself does not automatically make someone violent or abusive.
Entering a new relationship always involves trust, openness, and learning about another person’s emotional wellbeing. And one important lesson many people learn over time is this: the issue is often not the diagnosis itself — it is whether someone is taking responsibility for managing their health safely and consistently. Many people live full, loving, stable… Read More Mental Health, Medication, and Relationships — Why Stability and Honesty Matter
When these systems are distorted, underdeveloped, overactive, or impaired, it can affect how a person thinks, feels, behaves, and relates to others. In Neuroscience this can happen because of genetics, development, injury, chronic stress, trauma, or learned patterns. In Psychology it shows up as patterns in personality and behavior. Important: “missing” is usually not literal—these systems… Read More Distorted, underdeveloped, overactive, or impaired
From a neuroscience perspective, the difference is often not that one person has a “bad brain” and another has a “good brain.”It is more about how certain brain systems work together — especially the systems for: 1. The brain of someone who may become abusive Research shows some abusive or violent people can have: Overactive threat system… Read More How certain brain systems work together
When psychologists assess someone with patterns like: they’re not just looking at incidents — they’re looking at patterns across time, thinking style, and likelihood of change. 1. Using the HCR-20 in This Context A professional would map behaviour like this: Historical (H) They would look for: 👉 This builds a picture of whether the behaviour is situational or lifelong.… Read More How These Assessments Apply in Real Situations
Low impulse control becomes much more significant — and more harmful — when it shows up in abusive or high-conflict personalities. Here’s how it typically plays out: 1. Fast Emotional Reactions Turn Into Harmful Behaviour In these personalities, emotions (especially anger, frustration, or feeling “disrespected”) rise very quickly — and there’s little pause before acting. So… Read More Abusive or high-conflict personalities.
Low impulse control means having difficulty stopping yourself from acting on urges, emotions, or thoughts in the moment — even when you know the action might have negative consequences. It’s not about intelligence or knowing right from wrong. It’s about the gap between feeling something and being able to pause before acting on it. What it looks like in… Read More Low impulse control
When Suffering Is Used as Control Let’s be clear. Not all suffering is genuine.And not all vulnerability is honest. The victim–martyr pattern is one of the most effective forms of manipulation—because it hides behind sympathy. The Pattern This is not about someone being ill.This is not about someone struggling. This is about a pattern over time.… Read More The Victim–Martyr Manipulation Pattern
Dating: that magical experience where you can feel like a glowing goddess on Monday, a detective by Wednesday, and emotionally retired by Sunday. But what is actually happening in your brain while all this romantic chaos unfolds? Let’s break it down scientifically… and slightly sarcastically. 🌟 THE GOOD: “I AM ALIVE AND GLOWING” When dating… Read More 💘 Dating and the Human Brain: The Good, The Bad & The Slightly Unhinged
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 