Anxiety is a complex and multifaceted emotional experience that is a normal part of the human condition. It can manifest in various forms and degrees, ranging from occasional worry to more intense and persistent feelings of fear and apprehension. Given your interest in trauma therapy, neuroscience, and emotional intelligence, exploring anxiety from these perspectives can provide a comprehensive understanding.
From a neuroscience perspective, the difference is often not that one person has a “bad brain” and another has a “good brain.”It is more about how certain brain systems work together — especially the systems for: 1. The brain of someone who may become abusive Research shows some abusive or violent people can have: Overactive threat system… Read More How certain brain systems work together
When psychologists assess someone with patterns like: they’re not just looking at incidents — they’re looking at patterns across time, thinking style, and likelihood of change. 1. Using the HCR-20 in This Context A professional would map behaviour like this: Historical (H) They would look for: 👉 This builds a picture of whether the behaviour is situational or lifelong.… Read More How These Assessments Apply in Real Situations
Low impulse control becomes much more significant — and more harmful — when it shows up in abusive or high-conflict personalities. Here’s how it typically plays out: 1. Fast Emotional Reactions Turn Into Harmful Behaviour In these personalities, emotions (especially anger, frustration, or feeling “disrespected”) rise very quickly — and there’s little pause before acting. So… Read More Abusive or high-conflict personalities.
Low impulse control means having difficulty stopping yourself from acting on urges, emotions, or thoughts in the moment — even when you know the action might have negative consequences. It’s not about intelligence or knowing right from wrong. It’s about the gap between feeling something and being able to pause before acting on it. What it looks like in… Read More Low impulse control
When Suffering Is Used as Control Let’s be clear. Not all suffering is genuine.And not all vulnerability is honest. The victim–martyr pattern is one of the most effective forms of manipulation—because it hides behind sympathy. The Pattern This is not about someone being ill.This is not about someone struggling. This is about a pattern over time.… Read More The Victim–Martyr Manipulation Pattern
Dating: that magical experience where you can feel like a glowing goddess on Monday, a detective by Wednesday, and emotionally retired by Sunday. But what is actually happening in your brain while all this romantic chaos unfolds? Let’s break it down scientifically… and slightly sarcastically. 🌟 THE GOOD: “I AM ALIVE AND GLOWING” When dating… Read More 💘 Dating and the Human Brain: The Good, The Bad & The Slightly Unhinged
There comes a moment in every therapist’s life—usually somewhere between the third “and how did that make you feel?” of the day and their fifth cup of coffee—when a quiet, humbling thought appears: “I think I might need a therapist.” Yes, really. Because despite popular belief, therapists are not floating around in a permanent state… Read More When the Therapist Needs a Therapist
When someone says “I love you” very early and then disappears or goes quiet, it usually comes from one of a few common emotional dynamics. Understanding them can make the experience feel far less personal. 💭 1. Emotional Impulsivity Some people feel emotions very strongly in the moment and speak from that intensity. In the early stage of attraction the… Read More Emotional Impulsivity
A classic example of self-destructive, vindictive behavior from a neuroscience and psychology perspective. Let’s unpack it carefully. 1. The Brain and Self-Destruction When someone ruins their own life, there’s often a combination of: Essentially, their brain is often wired to seek short-term emotional relief, even at the expense of long-term outcomes. 2. Projection and External Blame Trying to destroy everyone else after self-sabotage often… Read More Self-sabotage meets impulsivity.
Watching someone escalate their tactics can sometimes feel almost surreal. They seem to spiral, their behavior becomes erratic, and it’s tempting to think: they must be going into a meltdown. Neuroscience and psychology explain why this happens. 1️⃣ The Brain Under Stress When manipulative individuals encounter resistance or fail to control a situation, their nervous… Read More When Manipulators Go Into Meltdown: Understanding the Neuroscience and Psychology
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 