Many abusive relationships begin with requests that sound caring or practical. “Give me your password… just in case.” “Let me have access to your bank account… just in case.” “I need your phone PIN… just in case.” “I should know everything… just in case.” At first, it can sound reasonable. You may even believe it… Read More “Just in Case” – Or Just Another Way to Gain Control?
Abuse is not limited to physical violence. Many abusers seek control by restricting another person’s independence, communication, finances, movement, and access to information. One incident may not tell the whole story, but repeated patterns of these behaviours are serious warning signs. Restricting Freedom of Movement Financial Control Digital Control Home and Security Systems Communication Control… Read More Coercive and Controlling Behaviours: How Abusers Restrict Freedom
There are many legitimate and illegitimate reasons why someone might wipe a computer’s hard drive or keep an old phone locked. However, in the context of an investigation or legal dispute, these actions can raise questions and may prompt further examination. Some possible reasons include: Innocent reasons Reasons that may raise concern An investigator might… Read More Erasing Evidence
Here’s how police in Spain typically assess ongoing risk after long-term domestic violence or harassment cases(including cases that have been through restraining orders and may be in or out of VioGén monitoring). 🟡 1. Risk is not based on time — it’s based on behaviour patterns Police and risk assessors do not use a “time passed =… Read More Structured risk assessment tools (VPR / VPER)
One of life’s great misunderstandings is the idea that a lawyer only represents innocent people. Imagine the interview. Client: “I’m completely blameless.” Lawyer: “Of course you are.” What the lawyer is actually thinking is probably closer to: “Where are the documents?” Lawyers are not hired to become members of your fan club. They are hired to explain… Read More Your Lawyer Doesn’t Have to Believe You
For a long time, I questioned my own judgement because I was repeatedly presented with stories, explanations and accusations that simply did not make sense. Over time, however, documents, reports, emails, recordings and independent evidence began to paint a very different picture. Two years later, many of the claims that caused so much confusion can… Read More When Actions and Evidence Don’t Match the Story
Privacy and the law during forensic investigations try to balance two competing things: public safety and individual rights. Key legal/privacy principles usually include: 1. Lawful authority (warrants / court orders) Police generally need legal authority to search devices like phones or computers: The warrant should define: Searching beyond that can be challenged. 2. Proportionality In many legal systems… Read More Privacy and the law during forensic investigations
When police seize hard drives, phones, and other digital devices in a criminal investigation, they typically follow a digital forensics process designed to preserve evidence and make it admissible in court. Typical steps include: 1. Seizure and chain of custody The first priority is preserving evidence: Without this, evidence can be challenged in court. 2. Forensic imaging… Read More Forensic Investigations
What should be logged if it may relate to Domestic Abuse, Coercive Control, or potential interference with your safety, finances, or legal process. They may indicate: Examples include: These can fit patterns of:Financial AbuseandTechnology-Facilitated Abuse How to log each incident Use the same structure every time: Date/time: when discovered (and when it may have happened, if known)What… Read More Tampering with Evidence
Trust and privacy are fundamental in any relationship, especially when it comes to sensitive information like passwords for bank accounts. Demanding access to every password “just in case” can seem reasonable on the surface, particularly after many years together. However, such requests often mask deeper intentions that can jeopardize your financial security and personal privacy.… Read More “Just in Case” – What Does It Really Mean?
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 