What should be logged if it may relate to Domestic Abuse, Coercive Control, or potential interference with your safety, finances, or legal process.

They may indicate:

• control,
• intimidation,
• sabotage,
• boundary violations,
• evidence tampering,
• financial abuse,
• digital abuse.

Examples include:

• changed documents or wills
• locked phones/devices
• wiped computers
• deleted Cloud Backup or hard-drive backups
• changed alarm/security codes
• stolen mail
• stolen bank cards
• damaged property
• unauthorized account access
• missing paperwork
• unexplained changes to passwords or settings

These can fit patterns of:
Financial Abuse
and
Technology-Facilitated Abuse

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How to log each incident

Use the same structure every time:

Date/time: when discovered (and when it may have happened, if known)
What happened: factual description only
Evidence: photos, screenshots, receipts, emails, device logs
Impact: financial loss, fear, inability to work, security risk
Action taken: changed password, called bank, informed lawyer, police report number

Example:

18 May 2026, 09:30 — Discovered alarm code had been changed without my permission. Unable to access property. Locksmith called. Invoice saved. Solicitor informed.

Or:

18 May 2026, 16:10 — Noticed external hard drive wiped. Files missing. Photos taken. IT specialist contacted for forensic recovery.

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Why details matter

Individually, each event can look “minor.”

Together they may reveal a pattern.

Courts and investigators often look for:
Pattern Recognition

That pattern can show:

• escalation
• intent
• repeated interference
• ongoing risk

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Digital evidence is especially important

For devices/accounts:

• photograph screens/errors
• keep login alerts
• save bank notifications
• export emails
• note exact timestamps

If you suspect device tampering, avoid using that device to investigate further if it could overwrite evidence.

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Psychological note

These acts often aim to trigger:

• confusion
• helplessness
• self-doubt
• hypervigilance

That activates the Amygdala.

Logging restores control by re-engaging the Prefrontal Cortex:
observe → record → preserve → pass to professionals

That’s how you protect yourself.

A good rule:

If it made you stop and think, “that’s odd” or “that feels wrong” — log it.