People often ask me when I’m going to write my book.

My answer is always the same.

I’m waiting for the divorce to be finalised.

For a long time, I simply wasn’t ready to write it.

After decades of living with abuse, my priority wasn’t telling my story—it was healing from it. Trauma recovery takes time. Neuroscience shows us that a brain recovering from prolonged stress and coercive control needs safety before it can begin to organise traumatic experiences into a coherent narrative. I didn’t want to spend my energy reliving the past when I needed it to rebuild my future.

So I chose healing first.

I chose therapy.

I chose learning about neuroscience and psychology.

I chose rebuilding my confidence, calming my nervous system, and discovering who I was outside of the abuse.

Now, I feel something I haven’t felt in a very long time.

I’m ready.

The divorce is the final legal chapter of a story that has lasted far too long. Once it is complete, that chapter can finally close.

Only then do I want to sit down and write.

Not from a place of anger.

Not from a place of bitterness.

Not to seek revenge.

But from a place of peace, understanding, and hope.

I want to tell the truth about what abuse does to a person, but I also want to tell the truth about healing. I want people to understand that the brain can recover, that confidence can return, that joy can be found again, and that life after abuse is not only possible—it can be deeply fulfilling.

And there’s another reason I’ve waited.

I want my book to have a happy ending.

For too many years, my life was written by someone else’s choices, someone else’s control, and someone else’s behaviour.

This ending belongs to me.

I want the final pages to tell the story of freedom, not unfinished legal proceedings.

I want to write about peace instead of conflict.

About laughter instead of fear.

About possibility instead of survival.

When readers close the book, I don’t want them to be left with the abuse.

I want them to be left with hope.

Because healing is possible.

The nervous system can recover.

The brain can change.

Life can begin again at any age.

And that is the ending worth waiting for.