I remember reading the Facebook post that spoke about running out of money whilst being in Thailand and needing another plan to continue living in a warmer climate. It reminded me of an important lesson I have learned: when money becomes someone’s driving force, relationships can become transactions rather than connections. Sadly, some people will… Read More When the Vultures Circle, They Never Expect You to Fly
Lately, I have found myself slipping back into a beautiful, familiar state of peace. It is the same feeling I remember when my children were young, when life was simple and I could just be… me. I wasn’t flinching at every sound. I wasn’t cringing, waiting for criticism. I wasn’t embarrassed by someone else’s behaviour.… Read More Finding My Way Back to Me
There is a place I never believed I would reach. Not a place on a map. Not somewhere you can book a flight to. A place within myself. For years, my life felt like an endless storm. Every day brought another challenge, another worry, another reason to remain on high alert. My nervous system forgot… Read More Almost There: A Glimpse of My Own Nirvana
I recently found old notes filled with promises, declarations of love, apologies, and hope. Years ago, I would have treasured them. Today, they mean nothing. Not because the words themselves were unkind, but because they were never consistently reflected in actions. Words have power only when they are backed by behaviour. Anyone can say, “I love… Read More When Words Become Meaningless
While unpacking boxes after my move, I came across some handwritten notes from my former husband. They read: “I will always love you.” “You are the only one I ever wanted.” “You never deserved it. I am sorry.” I paused for a long time. If those words were true, why were they followed by years… Read More When Words and Actions Don’t Match
For the first time in many years, I feel calm. I feel loved. I feel peaceful. After months of endless paperwork, legal documents, bills, and administrative tasks that often seemed unnecessary, I have finally reached a place where I can simply breathe. The silence is no longer uncomfortable—it is healing. People often ask me whether… Read More Peace Is Priceless: Why Some Divorces Cost Far More Than Money
Today, I paused for a moment and realised just how far I have come. I am incredibly proud of myself for finding the courage to walk away from a life that no longer reflected who I was. Leaving was not easy. It took years of questioning myself, rebuilding my confidence and believing that a different… Read More Walking Away Was the Bravest Decision I Ever Made
One of the greatest fears many survivors have is what happens when a restraining order expires. Does the protection end? The answer is not necessarily. In Spain, the expiry of a restraining order does not automatically mean that all protection comes to an end. Where the authorities assess that a victim remains at risk, protective measures… Read More When a Restraining Order Ends: Protection Can Continue
For many survivors of domestic abuse, one question can be deeply unsettling: “What happens when my restraining order ends?” Many fear that the end of a court order means the end of their protection. Fortunately, that is not always the case. Protection Does Not Automatically End In Spain, the expiry of a restraining order does not… Read More What Happens After a Restraining Order Ends in Spain?
For many survivors of domestic abuse, receiving a protection order is not the end of the journey—it is the beginning of living safely again. In Spain, protection does not always stop when a restraining order is granted. In many cases, the Guardia Civil or National Police continue to provide ongoing protection through the VioGén (Sistema de Seguimiento Integral en los… Read More When the Court Order Ends, Protection Doesn’t: Understanding Ongoing Police Protection in Spain
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 