Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.
Abuse often starts subtly, with minor behaviors that can escalate into harmful patterns impacting safety and mental health. Rooted in power and control rather than anger, it can manifest as emotional harm, intimidation, and physical aggression. Recognizing these patterns is crucial to prioritizing one’s wellbeing and fostering safe relationships.… Read More When Love Feels Unsafe: Recognising the Hidden Patterns of Abuse
Abuse thrives in secrecy.
Whether it is physical violence, coercive control, emotional abuse, financial abuse or sexual abuse, perpetrators often rely on silence to continue their behaviour.
When victims are discouraged from speaking, or when those around them minimise what they disclose, the abusive behaviour can become more frequent, more severe and more dangerous.
Silence is not a solution.… Read More “Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims
The content discusses how anger often masks deeper emotions stemming from trauma. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing and understanding these underlying feelings to aid emotional regulation rather than suppression. Therapy offers support for both men and women over 40 in managing anger, improving relationships, and developing healthier emotional responses.… Read More Trauma, Anger & Emotional Regulation Therapy
There are several evidence-based approaches to treating trauma. The most appropriate treatment depends on the type of trauma, whether the danger has ended, the person’s symptoms, and whether the trauma was single-event or prolonged/complex. Main treatments for trauma Helps identify and change trauma-related thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. Often used for PTSD, anxiety and avoidance. Uses bilateral… Read More Evidence-Based Treatments for Trauma and Complex PTSD
The honest and evidence-based answer is: You can love someone with ASPD, but that love may not be emotionally or physically safe — especially if violence is involved.And safety, not love, must come first. 🧠 What is ASPD? Antisocial Personality Disorder is a serious and often misunderstood condition characterized by: A pervasive pattern of disregard for… Read More 💔 Can You Love Someone with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) — Especially If They’re Violent?
When antisocial traits are involved, disengagement is not relational — it is operational.You are not leaving a mutual bond; you are exiting a system where you were an asset. 🧭 Core Shift (This Is Non-Negotiable) You are not dealing with misunderstanding — you are dealing with entitlement. There is no insight coming.There is no repair coming.There is no shared… Read More Safe Disengagement When ASPD-Type Dynamics Are Present
Trauma • Neuroscience • Emotional Intelligence • Relationships My work is grounded in a deep interest in trauma, human behaviour, neuroscience, emotional intelligence and the ways our experiences can shape the way we think, feel and relate to others. Over the years, I have undertaken extensive training and professional development across a range of approaches, allowing… Read More My Professional Background
If you have survived an abusive or controlling relationship, you may still be trying to understand what happened. You may ask yourself: Why did I stay?Why did I keep hoping things would change?Why did I start doubting myself?Why do I still feel anxious, even though I’m away from the relationship?Why is it so difficult to… Read More When Abuse Changes the Way You See Yourself: Understanding the Psychology of Control—and Finding Your Way Back
Understanding the hidden effects of trauma, stress and emotionally difficult relationships Have you ever said to yourself: “I know I’m safe. So why don’t I feel safe?” Perhaps the relationship has ended. You have moved away from the situation. The person who caused you distress is no longer part of your daily life. Logically, you… Read More Why Does Your Body Feel Anxious When Your Mind Knows You’re Safe?
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I have a particular interest in the complex relationship between generational trauma, addiction, emotional abuse and dysfunctional family patterns. Trauma does not always begin with the person seeking support. Sometimes the patterns we are struggling with today have developed within a family over many years or even generations. Children can grow up learning relationship patterns, emotional… Read More Generational Trauma, Addiction & Abuse
