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Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.

Different Types of Abuse: Recognising Harmful Patterns and Warning Signs

Type of Abuse What It Looks Like Common Warning Signs Physical Abuse The use or threat of physical force to intimidate or cause harm. Hitting, pushing, grabbing, restraining, blocking exits, throwing objects, unexplained injuries, threats of violence. Psychological / Emotional Abuse Behaviour that damages confidence, identity or emotional wellbeing. Constant criticism, humiliation, insults, silent treatment,… Read More Different Types of Abuse: Recognising Harmful Patterns and Warning Signs

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Looking Back: The Psychology of Isolation, Control and the Illusion of Choice

People look at the wedding photograph and ask the same question. “Why the rush?” Why the quick engagement? Why the quick wedding? Why leave behind a secure home, a career, friends and family to move to another country? Looking back now, the answers seem painfully obvious. At the time, they were invisible. That is the… Read More Looking Back: The Psychology of Isolation, Control and the Illusion of Choice

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Why Most Survivors Are Not Susan Kuhnhausen

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The story of Susan Kuhnhausen is extraordinary. She survived because she possessed a rare combination of experience, training, physical skill, and the ability to remain functional under extreme stress. She had spent thirty years as an emergency room nurse. She had treated violent injuries. She had encountered people in crisis. She had practised self-defence techniques,… Read More Why Most Survivors Are Not Susan Kuhnhausen

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Why Do Serial Abusers Leave a Trail of Apologies? The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind the Pattern

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

One of the most confusing experiences for survivors is discovering years of letters, cards and messages saying: “I’m sorry.” “I know I’ve hurt you.” “I’ll change.” Yet the behaviour never changes. How can someone repeatedly acknowledge their actions and still continue the same pattern for decades? The Cycle of Abuse Psychologists have long recognised a… Read More Why Do Serial Abusers Leave a Trail of Apologies? The Psychology and Neuroscience Behind the Pattern

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Epistemic injustice.

A phenomenon that psychologists sometimes call normalcy bias, optimism bias, and, in some cases, epistemic injustice. When someone finally discloses domestic abuse and hears responses such as: “I doubt he’ll kill you.” “You’ll both meet someone else and move on.” “Every couple argues.” the speaker may think they are being reassuring. However, from a psychological perspective, they may… Read More Epistemic injustice.

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The abuse develops gradually

Coercive control is often misunderstood because many people imagine abuse as a series of isolated violent incidents. In reality, coercive control is usually a pattern of domination that gradually strips away a person’s freedom, confidence, independence, and sense of self. 1. The abuse develops gradually The relationship may start with affection, attention, promises, and emotional connection. Control… Read More The abuse develops gradually

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Look at the Patterns, Not the Promises

One of the most common mistakes people make when trying to understand abusive behaviour is focusing on what the abuser says rather than what they consistently do. When someone has experienced emotional, psychological, financial, or physical abuse, they are often encouraged to focus on the latest apology, excuse, promise, or explanation. However, the real answers… Read More Look at the Patterns, Not the Promises

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Understanding Why Some Women Seek Comfort Elsewhere During an Abusive Relationship

For much of my life, I believed that having an affair under any circumstances was completely wrong. It seemed like a clear-cut issue with no exceptions. However, after healing from abuse and working closely with psychologists and trauma specialists, my understanding of human behaviour has become far more nuanced. To be clear, this is not… Read More Understanding Why Some Women Seek Comfort Elsewhere During an Abusive Relationship

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