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Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.

Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

An exploration of coercive control, psychological trauma, survival and the devastating consequences of having your autonomy taken away. Trauma & Emotional Abuse | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Relationships & Recovery Dorothy Vallens, the lounge singer played by Isabella Rossellini in David Lynch’s Blue Velvet, is one of cinema’s haunting portrayals of a woman trapped in… Read More Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

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Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

Secondary gains refer to the indirect benefits someone may experience from trauma, such as avoiding responsibilities or receiving support, which can complicate recovery. While these behaviors may seem beneficial, they often stem from a need for safety or emotional relief rather than manipulation. Therapy should focus on understanding the underlying needs these behaviors fulfill to promote healthy changes.… Read More Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

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The People Who Disappeared: How Coercive Control Can Slowly Remove Your Support Network

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Sometimes you don’t realise you have been isolated until you look back One of the most frightening things about prolonged coercive control is that isolation does not always look like isolation. There may be no moment when someone says: “You are no longer allowed to have friends.” Instead, people gradually disappear. A friend becomes someone… Read More The People Who Disappeared: How Coercive Control Can Slowly Remove Your Support Network

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When the Professionals Tell You to Leave: Why You Should Listen to the Warning Signs

When a doctor tells you once that they are concerned about your safety, you may dismiss it. When they tell you twice, you may begin to wonder. When they tell you three times—and your psychologist is also repeatedly advising you to leave—it is time to stop and listen. Not because professionals know everything about your… Read More When the Professionals Tell You to Leave: Why You Should Listen to the Warning Signs

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When Trauma Lives in the Body: The Neuroscience of Prolonged Stress and Illness

Trauma is not only something you remember. Sometimes, it is something your body continues to respond to. When people talk about trauma, they often focus on the psychological consequences: Anxiety.Fear.Flashbacks.Nightmares.Hypervigilance.Emotional numbness.Depression.Anhedonia. But prolonged trauma can affect far more than how we think and feel. The brain, nervous system, endocrine system, immune system and cardiovascular system… Read More When Trauma Lives in the Body: The Neuroscience of Prolonged Stress and Illness

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Secondary Gain: When Suffering Can Serve a Hidden Purpose

There is a concept in psychology called secondary gain. It is often misunderstood. The term does not necessarily mean that someone is pretending to be ill, exaggerating their suffering or consciously choosing to remain unwell. Instead, secondary gain describes the unintended psychological, emotional, interpersonal or practical benefits that can sometimes become attached to a problem, symptom or behaviour. And… Read More Secondary Gain: When Suffering Can Serve a Hidden Purpose

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Coercive Control: When a Relationship Becomes About Power and Control

Coercive control is a subtle form of abuse that limits an individual’s autonomy through behaviors like monitoring, financial control, and isolation. Often difficult to recognize, especially for those over 40, it can manifest gradually, leading to hypervigilance and anxiety. Recognizing these patterns is vital for regaining personal freedom and healthy relationships.… Read More Coercive Control: When a Relationship Becomes About Power and Control

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Healing Family Trauma: Letting Go of Anger Toward Abusive Parents

Children raised in abusive environments often carry deep emotional scars into adulthood, leading to unresolved anger and a desire for revenge against their abuser, particularly a parent. This anger can strain family relationships and perpetuate cycles of trauma. Healing requires acknowledgment, boundaries, and sometimes professional support to break free from the past.… Read More Healing Family Trauma: Letting Go of Anger Toward Abusive Parents

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