People look at the wedding photograph and ask the same question. “Why the rush?” Why the quick engagement? Why the quick wedding? Why leave behind a secure home, a career, friends and family to move to another country? Looking back now, the answers seem painfully obvious. At the time, they were invisible. That is the… Read More Looking Back: The Psychology of Isolation, Control and the Illusion of Choice
“Your sanity is worth a lot more.” It wasn’t the advice I expected to stay with me. It wasn’t a legal argument or a financial calculation. It was a simple recognition of something neuroscience and psychology have been telling us for decades: Chronic stress is expensive. Not just emotionally, but physically, cognitively and neurologically. After… Read More The Price of Peace: Why Walking Away Is Sometimes the Greatest Victory
The story of Susan Kuhnhausen is extraordinary. She survived because she possessed a rare combination of experience, training, physical skill, and the ability to remain functional under extreme stress. She had spent thirty years as an emergency room nurse. She had treated violent injuries. She had encountered people in crisis. She had practised self-defence techniques,… Read More Why Most Survivors Are Not Susan Kuhnhausen
A person’s opinion is formed from the information available to them. In psychology, behaviour is the most reliable data we have because intentions are private, but actions are observable. If someone: then the brain naturally forms an opinion based on those repeated experiences. From a neuroscience perspective, this inconsistency activates the brain’s threat and reward… Read More Behaviour Creates Reputation
For years, survivors have carried an impossible burden. “Why didn’t you know?” “Why didn’t you leave?” “Didn’t you see the signs?” The truth is that many abusers do not introduce themselves as violent. They introduce themselves as charming, attentive, generous, funny, and devoted. The coercive control often begins quietly and escalates over time. A publicly… Read More The Past Doesn’t Always Stay in the Past
People keep saying the same thing to me. “You look different.” “You seem so much more relaxed.” “You’re smiling more.” “You’ve found your voice.” At first, I didn’t know what they meant. Then I realised they weren’t seeing a new version of me. They were seeing the version that had been buried for years. Abuse… Read More You Only Realise How Bad It Was Once You’re Free
Annabel Rook had dedicated her life to protecting vulnerable women, yet her own life was ended violently by her controlling partner, in the home they shared together. “I’m sure the irony is not lost on people,” Annabel’s father, Peter Rook, says. “Because here she was, the great safeguarder of women. But who was safeguarding her,… Read More “Overwhelming” evidence of his short temper and a pattern of abuse.
She offered her partner £50,000 to start a new life. Instead, he brutally murdered her A retired Old Bailey judge warned domestic abuse victims to “get out” before trying to end an abusive relationship, as the killer of his “unbelievably brave” daughter was jailed for life. Charity worker Annabel Rook, 46, was stabbed to death in… Read More She offered her partner £50,000 to start a new life
For those who live under control but have been told it is love. For those who have learned to stay quiet because speaking up has always come at a cost. For those who have spent years—or decades—walking on eggshells, second-guessing every decision, and shrinking themselves to keep the peace. For those who tolerate insults, manipulation,… Read More There Is Another Way
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Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 