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Linda CJ Turner Trauma & Relationship Specialist | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Women 45+ | Emotional Abuse & Coercive Control Recovery You survived it. Now it’s time to heal from it.

Remorse, Guilt, Shame and Humiliation: The Psychology of Accountability, Anger and Losing Control

The text distinguishes remorse and guilt, which focus on harm and responsibility, from shame and humiliation, which threaten identity or status and may provoke defensiveness, blame, or retaliation. In coercive relationships, losing control can be mistaken for losing love. Understanding psychology should never excuse abuse; safety, boundaries, accountability, and sustained change remain essential.… Read More Remorse, Guilt, Shame and Humiliation: The Psychology of Accountability, Anger and Losing Control

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The Psychology of ASPD: Empathy, Remorse, Attachment, Control and Conscience

The text distinguishes cognitive empathy, emotional empathy, remorse, attachment, intimacy, and accountability, explaining how someone may recognise another’s suffering without responding compassionately or changing harmful behavior. It cautions against diagnosing ASPD from relationship behavior, emphasizes sustained accountability over words, and affirms that understanding abuse does not require excusing it or identifying a diagnosis.… Read More The Psychology of ASPD: Empathy, Remorse, Attachment, Control and Conscience

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Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD): How it affects relationships and whether people feel emotions

People with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) can feel emotions. They are not necessarily emotionless, incapable of attachment or unable to experience love. However, they may experience, process and respond to emotions differently from people without the disorder. One of the most important distinctions is between feeling an emotion and having the capacity to understand, respect and respond… Read More Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD): How it affects relationships and whether people feel emotions

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When You Are Ready to Tell Your Story: Finding Your Voice After Abuse

Revisiting old letters can reveal patterns of emotional neglect, coercive control, and abuse while fostering compassion for one’s past self. Sharing such experiences may help others recognise unhealthy relationships, but it should never be obligatory. Privacy, safety, and readiness come first. Healing means acknowledging history without letting it define the future or dictate its next chapter.… Read More When You Are Ready to Tell Your Story: Finding Your Voice After Abuse

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No More Dear Paul Letters: I Will Never Beg for Love Again

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The writer reflects on old letters pleading for affection, understanding, and kindness from an emotionally unavailable partner. She recognizes that repeated attempts to communicate became begging, revealing a relationship marked by neglect, control, and abuse. Now, she rejects further persuasion, embraces her worth, reclaims her voice, and chooses relationships where love and respect are freely given.… Read More No More Dear Paul Letters: I Will Never Beg for Love Again

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You Can Spend a Lifetime With Someone and They Still Never Really Know You

One of the saddest realisations in a relationship is discovering that you can spend almost a lifetime with someone and they never really get to know you. Not because you were difficult to understand, emotionally unavailable or impossible to please, but because they never really made the effort to find out who you were. They… Read More You Can Spend a Lifetime With Someone and They Still Never Really Know You

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When You Finally Meet Someone Who Shows You Love, Rather Than Just Talking About It

Healthy love is consistent, considerate, and reassuring rather than confusing or conditional. It appears through everyday actions, attentive listening, respect, reciprocity, and reliable communication. After experiencing inconsistency, genuine affection may feel unfamiliar, but it allows vulnerability, relaxation, and authenticity. True love complements an already complete life, bringing warmth, peace, playfulness, and dependable care.… Read More When You Finally Meet Someone Who Shows You Love, Rather Than Just Talking About It

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Loving Someone and Being Loving to Them: Two Very Different Things

Loving someone is an emotion, but being loving requires consistent actions. Words and intentions mean little when behavior creates neglect, insecurity, or loneliness. Genuine love appears through reliability, affection, communication, accountability, and consideration. Relationships thrive when feelings become observable effort, making both partners feel valued, secure, and cared for.… Read More Loving Someone and Being Loving to Them: Two Very Different Things

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When Someone Cannot Accept That You Have Moved On: Revenge, Resentment and the Psychology of Losing Control

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The article explores post-separation abuse, highlighting how controlling behaviors can persist even after a relationship ends. It discusses psychological mechanisms behind vindictiveness and stalking, emphasizing that emotional pain does not justify abusive actions. It stresses the importance of personal autonomy and safety, urging victims to seek support and document incidents for protection.… Read More When Someone Cannot Accept That You Have Moved On: Revenge, Resentment and the Psychology of Losing Control

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