Here’s a sample letter you could adapt if you decide to report the discovery to the police.
(You can edit it to fit your exact situation.)
📄 Sample Letter to Police Reporting Discovery of Degrading Pornography by Abuser
[Your Name]
[Your Address]
[City, Postcode]
[Phone Number]
[Email Address]
[Date]
To:
[Officer’s Name, if known]
[Police Department Name]
[Police Department Address]
Dear Officer [Name or “To Whom It May Concern”],
I am writing to formally report concerns regarding material I have discovered in the possession of [Name of Abuser, if safe to disclose].
During the course of our relationship, I have experienced emotional, psychological, and [if applicable, physical] abuse at the hands of [abuser’s name]. Recently, I discovered a significant amount of pornography stored on [his/her/their] mobile device.
I am deeply concerned because the nature of the material appears to be extremely degrading, violent, and potentially non-consensual, suggesting a pattern of dehumanization and domination that mirrors the abusive behaviors I have personally endured.
Specifically:
- The material included [briefly describe the type — e.g., “violent sexual acts,” “humiliation of women,” “simulated non-consensual acts”].
- [If applicable:] Some content appeared to involve individuals who may not have consented or may have been underage, though I am not able to verify this conclusively.
- [If applicable:] I have preserved screenshots/evidence securely and can provide them to the appropriate authorities upon request.
Given the context of domestic abuse and coercive control, I believe this material may be relevant to an ongoing pattern of criminal behavior, and I am concerned for the safety of myself and potentially others.
I am requesting that this matter be formally investigated.
I am willing to cooperate fully with any inquiry but wish to ensure my safety is prioritized throughout the process.
Please let me know if you require additional information or would like to arrange a safe way to collect the evidence I have preserved.
Thank you very much for your time, your protection, and your assistance.
Yours sincerely,
[Your Full Name]
🌿 Important Notes:
- Keep the tone factual (even though you feel emotional — and rightly so).
- Keep a copy of any letter or email you send.
- If you feel unsafe delivering it directly, a domestic violence advocate or lawyer can forward it for you.
- Mention your need for safety upfront if you fear retaliation.
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
