Tag: ABUSE

Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.

Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

An exploration of coercive control, psychological trauma, survival and the devastating consequences of having your autonomy taken away. Trauma & Emotional Abuse | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Relationships & Recovery Dorothy Vallens, the lounge singer played by Isabella Rossellini in David Lynch’s Blue Velvet, is one of cinema’s haunting portrayals of a woman trapped in… Read More Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

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When You Finally Ask the Family for Help: The Psychology of Silence, Denial and Cover-Up Around Abuse

Sometimes the person experiencing abuse eventually reaches out When you have lived for years feeling that there is no way out, there may come a point when you finally confide in someone close to your partner. You may not even be asking them to confront the person. You may simply be hoping for one thing:… Read More When You Finally Ask the Family for Help: The Psychology of Silence, Denial and Cover-Up Around Abuse

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When the Past Is a Pattern: Should a New Partner Be Told About a History of Violence and Abuse?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

There is a difference between having a past and having a pattern. Everyone comes into a new relationship with history. Previous relationships, mistakes, regrets, disappointments and difficult experiences are part of being human. But what happens when someone’s history includes violence and abuse across two marriages spanning decades? What if there have been convictions for physical violence?… Read More When the Past Is a Pattern: Should a New Partner Be Told About a History of Violence and Abuse?

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When Cruelty Crosses The Line

Cruelty can be abuse, but cruelty and abuse are not interchangeable terms. A useful way to understand the progression is: Cruelty describes harmful treatment.Abuse describes a broader pattern of harmful, controlling, exploitative or coercive behaviour. When cruelty becomes repeated, deliberate and part of a pattern that causes physical, emotional, psychological or financial harm, it can properly… Read More When Cruelty Crosses The Line

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Types and Indicators of Abuse

Understanding the Different Forms of Abuse — and the Signs to Look For

Abuse is not always obvious.

It isn’t always physical, and it doesn’t always leave visible injuries. Abuse can involve patterns of behaviour designed to control, intimidate, manipulate, isolate, humiliate or undermine another person.

A person may also experience more than one type of abuse at the same time.

Recognising the signs can be an important first step towards understanding what is happening.

Important: The presence of one indicator on its own should not be taken as proof that abuse is occurring. However, it may indicate that further assessment is needed. The examples below are not exhaustive, and individual circumstances should always be considered.… Read More Types and Indicators of Abuse

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When Love Feels Unsafe: Recognising the Hidden Patterns of Abuse

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Abuse often starts subtly, with minor behaviors that can escalate into harmful patterns impacting safety and mental health. Rooted in power and control rather than anger, it can manifest as emotional harm, intimidation, and physical aggression. Recognizing these patterns is crucial to prioritizing one’s wellbeing and fostering safe relationships.… Read More When Love Feels Unsafe: Recognising the Hidden Patterns of Abuse

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“Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

Abuse thrives in secrecy.

Whether it is physical violence, coercive control, emotional abuse, financial abuse or sexual abuse, perpetrators often rely on silence to continue their behaviour.

When victims are discouraged from speaking, or when those around them minimise what they disclose, the abusive behaviour can become more frequent, more severe and more dangerous.

Silence is not a solution.… Read More “Keep It in the Family” Can Be Dangerous: Why Silence Protects Abuse, Not Victims

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💔 Can You Love Someone with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) — Especially If They’re Violent?

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The honest and evidence-based answer is: You can love someone with ASPD, but that love may not be emotionally or physically safe — especially if violence is involved.And safety, not love, must come first. 🧠 What is ASPD? Antisocial Personality Disorder is a serious and often misunderstood condition characterized by: A pervasive pattern of disregard for… Read More 💔 Can You Love Someone with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) — Especially If They’re Violent?

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