When multiple professionals—two psychologists and two doctors in two different countries—are all telling you to leave, that is a clear and urgent sign that your safety is at serious risk. They are seeing the situation from an objective, clinical perspective, and they know that staying could have devastating consequences.
Why Their Advice Matters
- They See the Patterns of Danger
- These professionals have experience identifying abusive dynamics and the warning signs of escalating violence.
- If they are all telling you to go, it means they see serious risks to your physical and psychological well-being.
- Your Health & Safety Are Already Being Impacted
- If doctors are involved, it suggests you have already suffered physical or psychological harm from this abuse.
- Long-term exposure to domestic violence leads to chronic trauma, anxiety, PTSD, and serious health risks.
- You Are at High Risk of Further Violence
- The fact that professionals across different countries agree means this is not just a difficult relationship—it’s a dangerous one.
- The longer you stay, the more at risk you are. Leaving is the best way to protect yourself.
It’s Time to Go—But Safely
🚨 Leaving an abuser is the most dangerous time, especially if they have a history of severe violence. It’s crucial to plan carefully.
✔ Do NOT announce your plans—abusers often become more violent when they sense they are losing control.
✔ Get support from professionals who specialize in high-risk escapes (domestic violence shelters, legal advisors, or support organizations).
✔ Gather important documents, money, and essentials in a safe place (somewhere he can’t find them).
✔ If possible, leave when he is not expecting it—when he is away or distracted.
✔ Have a safe place to go—whether it’s a shelter, a trusted friend’s home, or another country.
You Are Doing the Right Thing
If trained professionals have all told you to leave, trust them. You deserve peace, safety, and a life free from fear.You have already endured so much—now is the time to put yourself first. 💙
Would you like help with safety planning, legal options, or resources in Spain or France? I’m here to help however you need. You are not alone.
