As I stand just days away from my court case, I find myself witnessing the same old tactics, the same manipulative behaviors designed to break me down. It’s a cycle I know all too well, one that countless survivors of abuse will recognize. When an abuser feels their control slipping, they resort to isolation, hoping to make you feel alone, unsupported, and vulnerable. This is their last-ditch effort to weaken you before you stand up against them.

For years, I lived in the shadow of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control. Now, just as I prepare to stand my ground and seek justice, the campaign against me intensifies. The pattern is so predictable it’s almost cliché: cutting me off from my support system, sowing seeds of doubt among my friends, and using flying monkeys—family members, acquaintances, or even outright lies—to try and turn people against me.

One of the most painful tactics? The false narrative. Abusers and their enablers are skilled at twisting reality, painting themselves as the victim while portraying the actual survivor as the aggressor. They thrive on confusion, on making people question what they know to be true. And when you extend an olive branch in an effort to keep things civil, what do you receive in return? Hate. Smears. More abuse.

But here’s what they don’t realize: I am not the person I once was.

The truth is, isolation only works when you don’t recognize the game being played. But I see it now. I see the desperate attempts to rattle me, to make me feel alone and defeated. And I refuse to let it work.

To anyone else experiencing this—whether before a court case, during a separation, or while trying to break free—please hear me when I say this: You are not alone. The abuser wants you to feel cut off because that is where they hold their power. But the moment you recognize it for what it is, that power begins to crumble.

I have spent months rebuilding my life, reconnecting with my true support system, and reclaiming my peace. No matter how many attempts are made to shake me, I will not be moved. And neither should you.

Let them rage, let them scheme. Their tactics only prove one thing: they know they’ve lost control.

And that is their greatest fear.