Tag: MENTAL HEALTH

Mental health refers to a person’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being, encompassing the ability to handle stress, relate to others, make decisions, and navigate the challenges of life. It influences how individuals think, feel, and act, contributing to the overall balance and quality of their lives. Mental health is essential at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.

“A Turner Is Never Wrong” — Except, Apparently, When It Comes to Me

The content explores the psychological dynamics of double standards in relationships, highlighting how one partner may consistently be blamed or invalidated while the other is not. This unequal treatment can lead to feelings of inadequacy, defensiveness, and emotional exhaustion. The text emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and the ability to admit mistakes for healthy interactions.… Read More “A Turner Is Never Wrong” — Except, Apparently, When It Comes to Me

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When You Can’t Remember Anything Good Anymore: When Love Turns to Disgust After Abuse

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There can come a point after an abusive or deeply controlling relationship when something inside you changes. You think about the person who once occupied so much of your emotional world — and you realise something has happened. You cannot seem to remember what you ever found so wonderful about them. The memories that once… Read More When You Can’t Remember Anything Good Anymore: When Love Turns to Disgust After Abuse

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Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

An exploration of coercive control, psychological trauma, survival and the devastating consequences of having your autonomy taken away. Trauma & Emotional Abuse | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Relationships & Recovery Dorothy Vallens, the lounge singer played by Isabella Rossellini in David Lynch’s Blue Velvet, is one of cinema’s haunting portrayals of a woman trapped in… Read More Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

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Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

Secondary gains refer to the indirect benefits someone may experience from trauma, such as avoiding responsibilities or receiving support, which can complicate recovery. While these behaviors may seem beneficial, they often stem from a need for safety or emotional relief rather than manipulation. Therapy should focus on understanding the underlying needs these behaviors fulfill to promote healthy changes.… Read More Secondary Gains in Trauma Treatment: Understanding the Hidden Benefits of Staying Stuck

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When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse

Dreams of abusive ex-partners can evoke panic and feelings of helplessness, often mirroring past trauma of entrapment and emotional abuse. These nightmares reflect the brain’s processing of danger and the lingering impact of coercive control. While waking reality differs, persistent fear may signify unresolved emotional connections, necessitating compassionate self-reassurance and potentially seeking therapeutic help.… Read More When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse

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When suspicion reflects their own standards

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Dishonest individuals often project their own behaviors onto others, assuming everyone acts similarly. This projection leads to a distorted moral double standard, where they rationalize their dishonesty while condemning others for the same actions. Distinguishing between healthy discernment and chronic suspicion is crucial, as suspicion can stem from past trauma rather than actual deceit.… Read More When suspicion reflects their own standards

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The Warning I Ignored: When Someone Takes Pride in Destroying Their Former Partner

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The narrative highlights the significance of recognizing early warning signs in relationships, particularly through a recounting of emotional abuse. The author reflects on a past conversation that foreshadowed their own experience with similar behavior when attempting to leave a relationship. Ultimately, it emphasizes the importance of understanding patterns of abuse and the consequences of one’s actions.… Read More The Warning I Ignored: When Someone Takes Pride in Destroying Their Former Partner

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