When Someone Suggests They Know Something About A Child That You Don’t Know — Don’t Ignore the Alarm Bells

Sometimes the most important warning sign isn’t what someone tells you. It’s what they imply they know. Imagine someone makes an apparently casual comment about your child. Perhaps they mention something you didn’t know. Perhaps they imply they have information about your child’s life that hasn’t been shared with you. Perhaps they say: “I know… Read More When Someone Suggests They Know Something About A Child That You Don’t Know — Don’t Ignore the Alarm Bells

Would You Believe the Evidence — or Protect the Person You Love?

The content discusses the complexities of recognizing and addressing potential grooming behaviors towards children by trusted individuals. It emphasizes the psychological challenges parents face when confronted with allegations against those they know and care for, urging them to remain vigilant for warning signs and prioritize their children’s safety above discomfort or reputations.… Read More Would You Believe the Evidence — or Protect the Person You Love?

Deny, Deny, Deny: The Psychology of Denial When Someone Is Confronted With Evidence of Grooming

The text discusses how denial, defensiveness, loyalty, and fear can impact responses to suspected grooming behaviors. It highlights psychological conflicts individuals face when confronted with evidence against trusted people, often resulting in minimizing concerns or attacking the witness instead of addressing the allegations. The focus should remain on investigating behavior, not reputation.… Read More Deny, Deny, Deny: The Psychology of Denial When Someone Is Confronted With Evidence of Grooming

“A Turner Is Never Wrong” — Except, Apparently, When It Comes to Me

The content explores the psychological dynamics of double standards in relationships, highlighting how one partner may consistently be blamed or invalidated while the other is not. This unequal treatment can lead to feelings of inadequacy, defensiveness, and emotional exhaustion. The text emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and the ability to admit mistakes for healthy interactions.… Read More “A Turner Is Never Wrong” — Except, Apparently, When It Comes to Me

When You Can’t Remember Anything Good Anymore: When Love Turns to Disgust After Abuse

There can come a point after an abusive or deeply controlling relationship when something inside you changes. You think about the person who once occupied so much of your emotional world — and you realise something has happened. You cannot seem to remember what you ever found so wonderful about them. The memories that once… Read More When You Can’t Remember Anything Good Anymore: When Love Turns to Disgust After Abuse

Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire

An exploration of coercive control, psychological trauma, survival and the devastating consequences of having your autonomy taken away. Trauma & Emotional Abuse | Neuroscience & Emotional Regulation | Relationships & Recovery Dorothy Vallens, the lounge singer played by Isabella Rossellini in David Lynch’s Blue Velvet, is one of cinema’s haunting portrayals of a woman trapped in… Read More Dorothy Vallens in Blue Velvet: When Violence, Control and Fear Become Entangled with Desire