There is profound power in simply doing everyday things on your own terms—waking up late without guilt, inviting friends over whenever you wish, playing your favorite music at full volume, and enjoying a drink in the amount that feels right for you. The freedom to chat on the phone in the middle of the night,… Read More Experiencing Freedom in Everyday Moments: A Celebration of Liberation
There’s a special kind of happiness when beautiful people gather to celebrate not just a new house, but a new life. Bottles of cava sparkle, meals out bring laughter, and takeaways are shared with smiles—all marking the start of a fresh chapter. The joy is contagious because this isn’t just about a place to live;… Read More Celebrating a New Beginning: Freedom, Joy, and a Life Without Abuse
Many people enter marriage hoping their partner will change for the better, especially if they’ve experienced cruelty or meanness during the relationship. However, the truth is that mean behavior doesn’t magically vanish after the wedding or even after divorce. Some women hold on to the hope that this timethings will be different, but cruelty and meanness… Read More Mean Before, Mean After: Why Marriage Isn’t a Magic Makeover
1. Emotionally immature behaviour This is when someone struggles to regulate emotions or take responsibility for their impact on others. Common signs: How it feels to you:You may feel like you’re constantly “managing” their reactions rather than having an equal relationship. 2. Entitled behaviour patterns This involves expecting special treatment or exemptions from rules that… Read More How to Recognise Common Harmful Relational Patterns
If the situation feels manipulative, pressuring, or unsafe, the priority shifts from explaining to closing the door clearly and cleanly. You don’t owe emotional detail, evidence, or continued engagement. Here are a few more assertive message options you could use depending on how firm you need to be: 🚫 Firm and clear (most situations) “I’m not… Read More No Entry
If an abuser’s new partner comes to you asking questions about your past, your reaction will usually depend on one key question: Is this about their safety and understanding—or are you being pulled back into something emotionally destabilising? Here are a few common scenarios and how you might respond. 1. They seem genuine, grounded, and… Read More Questions and enquiries
In psychology, “sadistic traits” refer to patterns where a person may derive satisfaction from another person’s discomfort, distress, or humiliation. These traits exist on a spectrum and are not always obvious or extreme. In everyday life, they may show up in subtle relational dynamics rather than overt cruelty. It’s important to approach this topic with… Read More Understanding Harmful Interpersonal Patterns (Including Sadistic Traits)
Sadism isn’t just “being mean” or “cold.” Clinically and psychologically, it refers to a pattern where a person derives pleasure, satisfaction, or a sense of control from causing others discomfort, humiliation, or suffering. It exists on a spectrum—most people don’t meet any clinical threshold, but some traits can show up in everyday behaviour in milder… Read More Sadism
Life has a strange way of coming back to bite you in the most unexpected and surprising ways. Not always loudly. Not always immediately. Sometimes it’s quiet, delayed, and almost surgical in how precise it feels. That’s why there’s a saying worth remembering: Be careful what you wish for… because it may not be what… Read More Life has a strange way of coming back around
Anything you can do, I can do better…I can do anything better than you… Oh yes, it’s not just a song—it’s a full lifestyle. You’ve had a busy day?They’ve had a busier one and somehow saved a village, reorganised their entire life, and “didn’t even mention it.” You’re tired?They’re more tired—but still functioning at a higher spiritual… Read More 🎶 The Song of the One-Upmanship Abuser 🎶
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 