When it comes to relationships, the real question isn’t “What do these actions mean?” but “Do our intentions line up?”

It’s so easy to get caught up analyzing words, excuses, silences, or mixed signals. We tell ourselves to be patient, to wait and see, to hope that one day the other person will come around. But here’s the truth: if your intention is a genuine, committed relationship and theirs is not, no amount of waiting will bridge that gap.

Every month spent in limbo is a month you could be moving closer to someone whose goals truly align with yours. Think of it like this: time is not an unlimited resource. Your emotional energy, your ability to love, and your openness to trust are precious. If you keep pouring them into someone who isn’t ready—or doesn’t even want—the same future you do, you’re not just standing still. You’re moving backwards, away from the love you deserve.

This isn’t about being impatient. It’s about valuing yourself. It’s about recognizing that your time and your heart are worth protecting.

When you step back from someone whose intentions don’t match yours, you’re not “losing” them—you’re reclaiming your own life. You’re giving yourself the space to meet people who are not only capable of loving you but are also eagerto walk in the same direction you’re heading.

So the next time you feel that gnawing uncertainty, ask yourself: Do our intentions align? If the answer is no, then the kindest, bravest thing you can do—for yourself—is to let go and move on.

Because your life is too valuable to waste in limbo. Your heart deserves more than being an option. It deserves to be someone’s intention.